8 thoughts on “How Childhood Trauma Results in Depression and Unhappiness in Adulthood

  • March 25, 2019 at 8:33 pm

    Very nice article Mr. Cikanavicius ! Unfortunately, depression, if left untreated can become a “default” state of being for many people. Chronic depression is like an “old time friend” watching you from afar, ready to intervene once again with your life when things start not going your way…

    • March 29, 2019 at 10:57 am

      I totally agree with you! It’s a norm and it’s comfortable because you know where you stand.

  • March 27, 2019 at 3:15 pm

    The trauma was so long ago now – I can hardly remember it. The depression, guilt, fear and self-esteem issues are certainly there – have always been there. The conflict as to who is to blame is between that person in my life (since deceased) and myself – the one ultimately responsible for my state of mind – of so I’m told – that I have a choice, depending on my level of awareness.

    Anymore, I’m just looking fwd to the end of life – it’s doubtful the truth will ever come out. Wish I could have foregone this “story” altogether, but the past is gone anyway.

    • October 26, 2019 at 6:26 pm

      Maybe if you think of “your” story as the means to help someone else facing what you faced, then the event is left in the past and you have evolved into a light for others now. 🙏🤗
      I wish i had been able to help my mom see that amidst her depression😥

  • March 29, 2019 at 10:56 am

    I just want to say thank you for acknowledging high functioning depression. Most people would not know that I suffer from chronic depression because I am always cheerful, friendly, helpful, and overly positive, always looking for the bright side in any given situation. Deep down, though, I am sad, I am lonely, and I wish for something better. I am not suicidal right now, so that’s a plus, but, I have trouble maintaining this persona sometimes because I have to fake it til I make it with home and work, if I appear down or sad, people get mad at me and tell me to buck up cheer up, your life is good, what do you have to feel sad about?? Sometimes, when the sadness bubbles up to the forefront, I lie and say that I’m just really tired, didn’t get enough sleep, etc. Sometimes that is also true because I have trouble sleeping a lot and get up frequently throughout the night. I see a therapist. I’m good. Just wanted to say thank you.

  • May 4, 2019 at 5:40 am

    Im so lost in my thought my boyfriend went to jail about three weeks ago after telling him not to drink and drive he has previously led to me so many times and I caught him .we have moved six times in the six years we have been together .I’m trying to be strong about all this and he always says he’s sorry and I’m tired of hearing sorry he assured me everyday he loves me and wants this relationship to work but I don’t believe anything that comes out of his mouth anymore.I think I just want to be alone for awhile but I feel guilty when I hurt someone like that .I really don’t know what to say or do.I have so much hurt inside and anger toward him right now .I literally cried myself to sleep today .I’m a list ends and feel like I have no way to turn.help us what I need I have a counselor but the session are spreading out further and further each time …..about ready to comment myself again …just can’t handle all this ….a lot more has went on I could sit here and weight a book .help us needed.so tired really am!!!!!!

  • October 27, 2019 at 10:10 am

    “. . . existential dread, desperation, or self-loathing, . . .”

    “Other common, potential signs . . . toxic shame, chronic guilt, social anxiety,”

    That’s spells out a great deal of what I deal with – “existential dread” and “toxic shame”. Wow that is so much of what I feel on a daily basis. chronic guilt and social anxiety too – all of which I’ve carried around on my back for decades. Ruined any sort of love life and successful music career. Never happened because of intense self-loathing and extreme inhibition. At this point, age 61, and going through protracted Benzo withdrawals (3+ yrs.), it’s done, my story is coming to a conclusion.

  • May 26, 2020 at 10:25 pm

    I’m so very tired, and no ‘experts’ have ever picked this up; their ministerings have added to the problem, ironically.
    Looking back, knowing this, explains quite a bit: it wasn’t really me (although I am responsible). What a bloody waste…
    Thanks again.


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