How Childhood Trauma Teaches Us to Dissociate

What is dissociation? Dissociation, sometimes also referred to as disassociation, is a term commonly used in psychology that refers to a detachment from your surroundings, and/or physical and emotional experiences. Dissociation is a defense mechanism that stems from trauma, inner conflict, and other forms of stress, or even boredom.

Childhood Trauma

How a Traumatic Childhood Leads to Emptiness and Taking on Unwanted Roles

In my professional and personal life, I have met and observed an overwhelming number of people who have grown up in difficult environments. As children, all of us have probably experienced some sort of trauma that has had a long-term effect on us. For some, it’s some significant life events. For others, it’s a general, undefined mood that they feel stuck in and are unable to clearly define (, general, chronic anxiety). For many of...


Are You Coping and Managing or Healing and Growing?

The most common question I’ve heard, in person and in emails or comments, is this: “I have these serious problems. How do I fix them?” Or a variation of it, like this: “I read your article on [problem X]. It’s very accurate, but what do I do about it?” In today’s article, I will try to explain why it is so difficult to answer this question. We will also look at the various ways people try to deal with their psychological problems, and the core differences between them.

Childhood Trauma

How a Traumatic, Controlling Upbringing Makes You Unmotivated, Overwhelmed, and Empty

In my personal and professional life, one of the most common problems I’ve seen people have is feeling unmotivated, empty, aimless, passive, and selfless. It is usually to the degree to which the person has been raised in a controlling environment, whether they consciously recognize it as such or not. In this article we will overview the most common forms of controlling childrearing and the problems it creates for the person.


How Narcissists React to Information About Narcissism

In my article titled How Narcissists Play the Victim and Twist the Story, someone in the comment section asked me about a narcissistic person’s reaction to such an article. Here’s part of the comment:
“Thank you for this article Darius. Spot-on does not describe the article well enough. So, what happens, and I’m afraid I know the answer, when a covert, malignant narcissist reads an article like yours? Do they just...