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5 Reasons Why Holidays Can Be Stressful


The holiday season is here again. People are running around for presents, racing against each other for the better deal, and there are Christmas ornaments and songs everywhere. It’s the holiday spirit, and everyone’s doing it, right? Kind of….

Whether you celebrate it or not, you can’t avoid it. Some people really enjoy this time of the year, and it can be fun and enjoyable. But there are also others who find it quite stressful and depressing....
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What’s a Narcissist’s Punishment?

How Abusers Get Away with Their Behavior


People with strong narcissistic, psychopathic, or sociopathic tendencies, abusers, manipulators, and otherwise harmful people tend to hurt others. Sometimes they do it overtly, even proudly, and in other cases it’s covert or maybe even unconscious. Sometimes it’s well planned and calculated, while other times it’s careless and reactionary.

Sometimes these people are identified and are forced to accept the consequences of their wrongdoings, while other times they get away with...
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Communication

Things Abusers and Manipulators Say to Their Victims

People who have strong narcissistic tendencies and other toxic people are known for their manipulation tactics. Some of them are consciously cunning and deceiving. While others are more primitive and blunt in their disturbing behaviors.
Whatever the case may be, such people tend to project heavily, not take responsibility for their actions, blame others, and use gaslighting.
Here are some of the things abusers and toxic people say to...
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Childhood Trauma

Is Blood Thicker Than Water? – Questioning the Family System


All of us have probably heard this saying at some point in our lives: blood is thicker than water. When people say that, they usually mean that family is the most important thing, or that a person’s relationship with their family members is more important than any other relationship that they may have.

But is it true? By what logic? And compared to what standard? These are the questions that we will explore in this article.
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Narcissists Hate Seeing You Happy


People with strong narcissistic tendencies hate seeing others do well. There are several reasons for this, and we will explore some of them in this article.

First and foremost, true happiness comes from within. Narcissistic people are unable to feel genuine happiness because they severely, or even completely, lack a sense of genuine self.
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Believing in Yourself When No One Else Does


We all experience hard times. For some of us it’s occasional, while for others it’s seemingly their whole life.

When people feel frustrated, overwhelmed, or lost, they may want support from others. Especially if they haven’t done a lot of self-work or have just begun to better understand themselves and the world.

In moments like that, we may want validation, help, understanding, or encouragement. 
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Addiction

How Childhood Abuse Becomes Self-Abuse


All of us have probably acted against our own self-interest at some point in our lives. For some people, it’s feeling sick after eating a bag of candy or drinking too much, while for others it’s self-mutilation and mental self-erasure.

The concept of abuse is complicated. It’s simple on an abstract theoretical level: abuse is a type of behavior that is harmful. But it’s much more complicated on a psychoemotional level because people tend to justify or...
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One Overlooked Reason Why Changing Is So Hard


We all know that changing your life is rarely easy. Even when we know what we want and what to do to get it, it doesn’t always quite work out. Why?

Factors like skill, experience, knowledge, opportunity, luck, health, dedication, motivation, consistency, and so on aside, there is one reason why changing is so difficult for so many people. That reason is rarely addressed or consciously understood. It is loss.
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