If Your Man Asks, Get Your Dog Out of the Bed
Your hubby or boyfriend has brought it up more than once. But when you point out a few things, he eventually caves on the subject.
You say how sad or alone your dog would be. And you both feel guilty leaving them out in the house all night.
Besides, your pup is comforting, warm, and makes you feel safe.
Why wouldn’t he be allowed in the bed?
Well, for the sake of light sleepers (or the men who most often contest the issue), you should consider your relationship.
Because you might be ruining it slowly.
Allowing your dog in your bed is more damaging to your relationship than most of us realize.
And if you have a light sleeping companion – your choice to allow Fido in the bedroom can be big trouble down the road.
In fact, the Mayo Clinic Sleep Disorders Center found that 53% of people say their pet has been disturbing to their sleep.
Why is this a problem for couples?
Because recent research shows that 8 hours of sleep that is disrupted is just as bad as only getting 4 hours!
So when your partner gets woken up “here and there” you can expect a few things the next day.
The effects of disrupted sleep
You can expect your partner to feel:
1) more depressed
2) less empathetic
3) and less energetic
They are also more inclined to get angry over smaller things and have an overall negative mood.
This can lead to:
A) not recognizing your bids for affection
B) feeling sluggish and performing worse at work
C) having less control over snapping and becoming argumentative
So it’s not a question about whether you should exile your dog if sleep is becoming a problem…
It’s a question of whether you care enough about the relationship to follow through and not guilt trip your partner about it.
Sleep is so important to our emotions, but it’s difficult to recognize at times.
Your partner may care about you a lot and not want to hassle you to bring it up again.
Instead, he may brush off the short awakenings until they snowball into a much bigger problem.
And neither you, nor your partner may realize that your deteriorating bond has anything to do with letting your sleeping dog lie.
There’s no conversation on the issue and no understanding of why things are going south.
And that’s why it can be a silent killer in relationships. Someone’s sleep is disrupted routinely and no one is saying much about it…
But the reality is – if your partner has brought it up before, it’s a bigger issue than they are letting on.
So, are you going to put your partner first?
Or are you going to keep telling yourself “it’s not that big of a deal”?
Your relationship depends on it.
Improve yours today by approaching the topic openly and honestly – no matter which side you’re on.
Emry, J. (2017). If Your Man Asks, Get Your Dog Out of the Bed. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 18, 2018, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/psychology-personality/2015/12/21/if-your-man-asks-get-your-dog-out-of-the-bed-james-emry/