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Bipolar Disorder Stigma

Rejection hurts for everyone, let's be honest. Before I decided to self-publish my book, thirty two agents told me no. Yeah, it burned a bit, but I  just redirected my energy into getting...


General

Understanding Emotional Instability

A diagnosis of emotionally unstable personality disorder (EUPD), or borderline personality disorder, can be a disturbing thing to get. But there is a silver lining and that is; that by having been given the diagnosis you now know a few things. 1 this is something that you have acquired it is not that there is...


Hope

Today I Love Talking About Pie Shells

Yep, that's a February Thursday all right Today I love talking about pie shells with people who get pie shells and how thin the line is between good and not so good. I love discussing the merits of means of measuring and the tricks there are to using up left over pastry. I...


How we live now

Single, 61, and Seeking Close Friends: Guest Post by M. J. Coreil

[Bella’s intro: I am a complete and total lover of single life. I’ve always been single and I always will be. But even I have to admit, there can be challenges, especially in places dominated by couples and families, who, research shows, tend to be insular. I am so grateful to be able to share with you this guest post by M. J....


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Why Do We Feel So Shocked By Our Kids’ Struggles?

Earlier this week, someone complimented the manners of my daughter while we were out in public. Without even thinking, I immediately responded, "Thank you so much!" It wasn't difficult for me to acknowledge the positive behavior in my kid or to accept responsibility for it as the person who was raising her. Yet, for some reason,...


addiction

What is a Personal Growth Marriage

Linda: In Eli Finkel’s book The All or Nothing Marriage, he gives us background starting with the founding of our country until 1850, where the dominant form was the PRAGMATIC MARRIAGE designed...


Adult Survivor

My Journey as the Family Scapegoat

A Family Therapist's 'Lived Experience' Last week I published an article describing 16 experiences common to family scapegoats (which has already  been shared almost 1500 times on social media thus far).  Many readers of this blog post wrote me privately to ask how I was able to "so perfectly describe" the story of their life. Much of what I write about in...


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Fearing Commitment: 12 Signs

In terms of romantic relationships, commitment can be defined as a dedication to a particular person, action, or cause. Commitments may be made willingly or unwillingly, and a fear of commitment can affect an individual's life in a variety of ways. Commitment is a broad term, but it generally comes down to dedicating one’s self to...


Disability

Sidelined: When Your Health Issue Calls Time Out

Just my luck (or my body's dramatic response to wide swings in air pressure). Western Washington, where I live, has been under an iron curtain of rain and gloom for about a solid month. During this time we had a 6-day snowstorm and not one, but two “Pineapple Express” rainstorms, which are known for dumping huge...


Bipolar Disorder

5 Ways To Build Confidence Each Day

I'm lucky in that I've always been a fairly confident person, although that confidence has grown increasingly as I've gotten older. Over the years I have actively worked on building confidence, especially...


ADHD

Getting Self Help With ADHD

I am a vortex I've had ADHD all my life, I guess. Though, of course, when I was younger it would have been harder to detect, since both childhood and ADHD are afflictions denoted by being not completely developed yet. The first sad thing about that statement is that it makes people...


Hope

Today I Love The Gentle Lifting Of The Sun

The gentle sky at dawn Today I love the gentle lifting of the sun as it enters the day and starts my world moving into accomplishments and endeavors, planning and learning, and eventually making it to the end of my day and looking back with pride on what I have done....


Anxiety

Mental Illness in the Movies

Mental illness, as portrayed in movies, is often a cliché.  But sometimes Hollywood gets it right. Yet it seems when they do it’s often surrounded by controversy.  People rail against insensitivity and violence, portrayals of demented lives, as if people with mental illness are merely misunderstood and not culpable for their actions.  As if they all suffer...


ADHD

Coasting With ADHD

What could go wrong? Sometimes everything seems fine. Sometimes it seems like I've got this life figured out, and there's nothing on the road up ahead that should cause me any worry. Have you been there? Do you remember times like that? Of course, they never last. Sometimes ... Sometimes having ADHD is damned depressing. When you get to...


Hope

Today I Love When Things Work Out

Getting ready to bake Today I love when things work out like when I went to make banana bread and discovered that I had exactly enough of one ingredient and a tablespoon more, that was close. I love that today is one of those days where I am swamped with things to...


Death

What It Feels Like to Grow Old

This is how I now imagine I may have felt when I was born - a long time ago, back before I was aware I might want to remember later (like now) how it felt to be that young. Life is extremely odd. I mean, can you think of anything weirder? Than life...