You Are Either In, Or You Are Out

When it comes to dealing with borderline personality disorders, you are either in or you are out. And once you become out, you can find yourself dealing with regret, personal resentment toward...


Let’s Talk About Bandwidth

I went to a party last week. Anyone who knows me well would make the perplexed head tilt now and say “really?” Yes, I did, and I even stayed an hour longer than I planned to. It was a dinner party for a local grassroots transportation advisory committee I’m part of. We participate in the public...

Mental Health

In Memory Of Maria

"I never meant to cause you any sorrow, I never meant to cause you any pain, I only wanted to one time to see you laughing, I only wanted to see you, Laughing in the purple...


Required Negative Impact Of ADHD

It might help ...There are criteria for diagnosis of ADHD.And they keep changing.Why? I don't know specifics, but mostly because we keep learning things.But there may be some influences on the changing criteria that one could only call political. For instance ... One cannot be diagnosed with ADHD if there is no indication...


Today I Love The Chances That We Get

Sometimes peace seems out of reach ...Today I love the chances that we get to love and to be loved. I love that when we lose someone the pain is a gauge of how much we had, though it is always a long time before our hearts can see clearly enough...


10 Ways To Assess & Respond To Narcissists

How would you describe a selfish individual?What about them makes them selfish?Have you taken notice to their entitlement, arrogance, and lack of empathy? If so, you're a few steps ahead of most people. Sadly, research suggests that narcissists and sociopaths have a tendency to deceive most people they come in contact with. Some research...


How To Pick A Gynecologist

When I was 18-years-old, and it was time to go see a gynecologist, I remember asking a few friends if they thought it was better to have a male or female gynecologist. Some said they...


Today I Love Early Morning Walks

Magic on a mild grey dayToday I love early morning walks in almost mild weather. I love that I don't have to clean the car and truck off right away, though I do have to clean them off still, but I get to do it at my leisure. I love...


The Power Of Community

"When you're down and out, When you're on the street, When evening falls so hard, I will comfort you" Paul Simon Perhaps the hardest thing about mental illness is the alienation that a person feels with the disease, that one is all alone in the world. 


A Lovely Fresh Way to Pray

Finally learning a way to pray that seems to "fit" me feels like getting a love letter from whoever is listening to my prayers.I've never been completely sure I know how to pray. Even when I say to myself, "I am going to pray" or "I need to pray" or "I am praying,"...


Longevity and Bipolar Disorder

What’s the average lifespan of someone with bipolar disorder? Now that I’m in my 50s, and now that I’ve lived with the diagnosis for nearly three decades, I wonder if I’ll live as long as others without the disorder. According to research, probably not.


Resourcefulness: Compassionate Problem-Solving

My blog is all about how to engage conflict without casualties. I've written quite a bit about reframing our relationship with conflict and drama. In this post I suggested that compassion is the antidote to drama. Struggling with people instead of against them is a terrific way to harness the positive power of conflict. So how do you do...


Two Possible Reasons People with OCD Perform Compulsions

This is my second post in the series on obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD)—a mental disorder associated with obsessions (recurrent intrusive urges) and compulsions (mental rituals or repetitive behaviors).¹ In my previous post, I described the nature of obsessive-compulsive disorder, the relationship between obsessions and compulsions, and the consequences of performing compulsions. I also explained the first of three aspects of OCD I was planning...


The “Perfect” Foster Parent

Someone recently commented on a Facebook post of mine and said, “You’re basically the perfect foster parent, but I’d like to read a blog about those foster parents who aren’t really well-suited...