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Anxiety

Free Solo – Stop Hiding Behind your Screen

 I once knew a girl from work in the Internet heyday (circa 1999). We worked together remotely building online support groups. We developed the largest ever online health communities. My colleague and I worked together for many years without ever having met. I knew her. I came to rely...


General

What Stories Will You Tell?

This is a follow-up to a post I did a year ago, . If you didn’t catch it then, it might warm you up for today. It’s about the extent to which our disabilities shape our sense of self.I’m a big fan of Shawn Colvin’s music. One of her songs, The Story, has the lines,“I...


General

Turning Disconnection into Connection

While we might seem tuned into each other through social media, text, email, phone, video conferencing and even in person, we remain a relatively disconnected society. Our primary relationships are no exception to this rule.Lisbeth and Angel admit enjoying learning about one another and the excitement at the start of a relationship. They both realize this...


parenting

Showing Your Child How to Stay Safe Through Play

I love writing articles for parents, but my heart goes out to them. It's difficult being a parent in this time and age. Between the devastating news about our actual world being a victim to climate change and all the social-emotional dangers to which children are exposed to nowadays, it's terrifying.


Hope

Today I Love Good Ideas

The happy Wednesday officeToday I love good ideas that drop into my head unbidden and at the most opportune times. I love that the truth of that is that when I get an idea that is good I enjoy it for as long as I can and when I get...


Uncategorized

You Need to Know Your “Button” In Parenting

Every parent has a hot button that gets pushed whenever a *certain* behavior happens. What's yours? What's that one behavior that just throws you over the edge, every time you see it?It's important to know what your hot button is because once it's pushed, your emotional control slips and you start to function out of...


ADHD

Then I Opened My Mouth …

I should just keep my mouth shut, but ...Sometimes I say the wrong thing.Admittedly, I've gotten good at deleting what I've typed in on social media platforms like I even delete them before I publish them.And, I've learned how to edit those status updates as well. Pretty good for...


General

9 Signs Of Traumatic Bonding: “Why Do I Love My Abuser?”

Do you find yourself picturing a loved one in your mind?Are you thinking about an experience that still hasn't left you?After giving a presentation at a conference, in 2014, of parents and families who have lived through years of abuse, I recognized that not many people understood the full definition of traumatic bonding. The...


Beliefs

Is Acceptance a Form of Weakness or Defeat?

Someone commented recently that to accept something you don’t like about yourself is a form of defeat.When I asked what the issue was, he replied, “I can’t accept my height. I’m too short. I feel like if I were to accept it, I’d be...


Treatment

What the Research Tells Us About ADHD Meds and Drug Abuse

Last week, I wrote about a particularly uninspiring article in the Wall Street Journal that referred to ADHD medications as a "quick fix." Today, I want to follow up on one specific point from that article that I didn’t talk about in my last post: the suggestion that taking ADHD meds makes people more susceptible to addiction....


Marijuana and Bipolar Disorder

As cannabis has become legal for medical and recreational purposes in many states, discussing risks and benefits of cannabis in relationship to health and illness has become part of routine medical care....


Be On Purpose

Once More, With Feeling: On Intention & Living Your Values

I recently completed Brene Brown's Dare To Lead (read it; it's wonderful and you will be better for it). Within the book's beautiful contents are a few pages dedicated to Values from which we choose to intentionally conduct ourselves. The reader is asked to select two Values that resonate with them, and challenged to curate a...


General

Sore Spots

Sore spots. We all have them. Those places where we get easily triggered, quickly defensive and irrationally reactive. It’s the emotional equivalent of being poked in a fresh wound. Those unhealed places...


avoidance

Learning to End Relationships Well

This past month I moved from Houston, Texas to Denver, Colorado. It’s always been a dream of mine to live near the mountains, and at 38 years old, I had to ask myself, ‘What am I waiting for?’Moving states and a therapy practice was challenging enough logistically, but what I didn’t expect was the experience of having to say goodbye to so many...


Communication

Evaluating Your Therapist Checklist

It can be helpful if you rely on yourself, at least in part, to make sure you are getting the best therapy possible. I believe that learning how to advocate for yourself to the best of your ability can actually be an important part of the therapeutic process. A simple evaluation process can be the...


Makeup or No Makeup

I can not stand applying mascara. I have long curly eyelashes and after I apply it I have to take scissors and divide them up  hair by hair cause sometimes they clump together...


Anxiety

Boredom Hurts: 5 Steps to a Reset

She asked: What if I never meet Mr. Right? What if I can't get pregnant? What if I'm not enough? What if he cheats? What if I have a panic attack?  What if I'm dying? The spiral of fear and avoidance continues...