Conflict Resolution

White Males Are the Most Hated Group

White males are the most hated group in America, according to a survey administered by the author of this blog to his students in an urban community college. In a 10-question survey about eight different racial, gender and ethnic groups, white males topped the survey on six of the questions.

The surveys were given by the author to students in his three classes. The students ranged in age from eighteen to late thirties....


A Spike in Children’s Mental Health Crises

Across the nation, in emergency rooms of clinics and hospitals, children are arriving with mental health crises in droves, researchers reported recently. The children represent all races and ethnic types and socioeconomic groups, but are particularly from minority and lower socioeconomic populations.

Anna Abrams and colleagues presented this research to a meeting of the American Academy of Pediatrics. They looked at data from 45 children’s hospitals across the country from 2012 to 2016,...


Dialog Between a Feminist and Masculinist

F: “I’m a victim.”
M: “I’m a victim.”
F: “For thousands of years men have oppressed women.”
M: “For thousands of years women have accused men of oppressing them.”
F: “Men are sexual abusers.”
M: “Women are sexual manipulators."
F: “All the problems of women are caused by men.
M: “All the problems of men are caused by women.”
F: “Men just don’t get it.”
M: “Women don’t allow men to...


Study: Are Fat People Lazy?

According to a recent study, our first impression of individuals we meet may rest, in part, on what kind of body they have. This was the finding of research published in Psychological Science, a journal of the Association for Psychological Science.

“Our research shows that people infer a wide range of personality traits just by looking at the physical features of a particular body,” noted Ying Hu of the University of Texas at Dallas, a psychological scientist who was the first author on the research. “Stereotypes based on body shape can contribute to how we judge and interact with new acquaintances and strangers. Understanding these biases is important for considering how we form first impressions.” In other words, we tend to stereotype people based on their body type.


About Megyn Kelly’s “Blackface” Remark

The headlines were loud and unequivocal. NBC was canceling Megyn Kelly’s morning show because of her “defending blackface.” She had come under intense criticism by some viewers ever since she had discussed Halloween costumes earlier that week.

On that show, Kelly brought up Real Housewives star Luann de Lesseps, who was condemned because she dressed as Diana Ross for Halloween and made her skin appear darker. “I thought, like, Who doesn’t love Diana...


People Who Never Consider Therapy

Photo by Internet Archive Book ImagesHave you ever met any of the following types?

…The man who seems like the nicest, most well-adjusted person in the world, the man everybody likes, the one you have been waiting for all your life—until that sudden day when he ends up cleaning out your bank account?

…The man who seems so debonair that you call your mother and all nine of your female friends to croon about...


Parents Blind to What Hurts Their Kids

One of the worst things parents can do to their children is send them a double message. On a nonverbal level they treat them as though they are bad or perhaps even evil (using tone of voice and facial expressions). Then on top of that, with words, they tell them they love them. Such parents are unconscious of their dark feelings and motivations, which are conveyed nonverbally; they project those feelings onto their children.

The result is quite damaging to the children. They are often made to feel as though they were born to make their parents’ lives miserable. The children, having no outlet for their frustration, become the parents’ self-fulfilling prophecy. They are told they are bad so they become bad. They are also told that their parents are good and love them despite their being bad. This leaves the kids angry but confused about being angry.


Yes, Moderation is Good, But…

A glass of wine a day is all right according to most health experts. A bottle of whiskey a day is not all right. A cup of coffee a day is all right according to most health experts. Six cups of coffee a day is not so good.

Moderation, not just in what we eat and drink, but in all we do, is the key. Ancient sages have agreed on it. Buddha spoke about the middle way. He suggested that people be neither too self-indulgent nor too self-sacrificing. Lao Zi said, “He who knows that enough is enough will always have enough.” Socrates noted, “Worthless people live only to eat and drink; people of worth eat and drink only to live.


Sexual Abuse and its Outcomes

There are many kinds of child sexual abuse and there are a variety of adult outcomes to sexual abuse. Usually children know the person who abuses them. It is a member of their family, extended family or a trusted person in their lives. Below I have described some of the typical kinds of abuse and the outcome to that abuse.

Coerced Abuse. A boy was raped when he was six years old...


Religion is the Root of Evil

A recent survey of Best Countries, which polled 21,000 people from all over the world, found that the majority of people viewed religion as the "primary source of most global conflict today." It is designed to shed light on how countries are perceived on a global scale, evaluating 80 countries across 24 rankings, measuring 75 dimensions that have the potential to drive trade, travel and investment and directly affect national economies. One question...