Children

The Loneliness of the Family Scapegoat

The most dysfunctional families are those which favor some children and disfavor others. In the worst of such families, one child is completely disfavored and becomes the family scapegoat. This child is blamed for everything that is wrong in the family and is belittled and made to feel like the “bad sheep” by one or both parents and then treated that way by the other children as well.

The role assigned to this child...
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Mental Illness

How Social Values Affect Psychology Research

Psychology research, like all research, should be valid and reliable. Its goal should be an objective and unbiased search for the truth. Only if we know the truth about a psychological disorder—its cause, its course and its final outcome—can we understand and treat that disorder.

There are times when social values deter research and even censor it. For example, if a researcher were to do research that proved that belief in a supreme...
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Couples

The Myth of the Traitorous Daughter

One of the common myths of families is the “happy family” myth. “We are a happy family and as such we are superior to other families,” is the essence of this myth. The parents of such a family may regard themselves as a super couple or power couple, and they designate their children as superior children who belong to a happy, superior family. One or both parents create the myth and designate...
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Contentment

How to Beat Depression the Hard Way

The American Psychiatric Association is convinced that depression, particularly major depression is due to a chemical imbalance in the brain. Therefore, they treat it with medication. Taking a pill for depression is the easy way and many people prefer the easy way.

The problem with the easy way is that it is not the most thorough way and it doesn’t lead to the cure of depression, but rather to...
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Dreams

“What do women want?” Revisited

One of Sigmund Freud’s most famous quotes concerns his apparent inability to understand women. He wrote, “The great question that has never been answered, and which I have not yet been able to answer, despite my thirty years of research into the feminine soul, is 'What does a woman want?”

Maybe, just maybe, Freud could not answer this question because it was the wrong question. The question is too vague.

First...
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Dreams

Falling Dreams Mean Different Things

Dreams about falling are among the most common dreams. However, their meanings are not common. Many so-called experts on dreams attempt to explain all falling dreams in the same way. Ian Wallace, a psychologist says that a falling dream “indicates that you are hanging on too tightly to a particular situation in waking life. You need to relax and let go of it.”

Another explanation, this from a...
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Mental Illness

Sleep Disorders Linked with Mental Illness

Around 50 to 80 percent of people who have psychiatric illnesses also report sleep problems. This is according to data presented by the National Institute for Mental Health.

The Institute doesn’t know what sleep problems cause mental illnesses or mental illnesses cause sleep problems. Al they know is that there’s a link. It may be that either one can cause the other; too little sleep affects both our thinking and feelings,...
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