Being a Couple Versus Being Parents: Why is it So Hard for Some Couples To Stay Together After Having Kids?

“Hippo love” by Scott Richard; pic by torbakhopper

Some of you may know that many of my friends and family are at the age of having small children right now, including myself. You can imagine that as a parent and child and adolescent therapist, I talk to a lot of other parents, who struggle with their roles of mothers and fathers. This struggle often impacts their...


Social Anxiety vs. Shyness: How to Recognize the Signs of Social Phobia in Adolescence

In my practice, I’ve worked with many teenagers and young adults whose primary presenting concern is social anxiety. That may not be why they come to seek treatment, however. Often, it is because of the consequences of the disorder - depression, inability to be successful in the world, feelings of isolation, increased anxiety, inability to engage with people in a meaningful way, etc.


7 Things Sigmund Freud “Nailed” About Love & Sex

If there is one thing that almost all of my patients speak about in psychoanalytic psychotherapy in one shape or form, it's LOVE. Am I really lovable? How do I make my relationship work? Why can't I find a stable partner? Is there something I am doing wrong? Sound familiar? Maybe you are one of the few people out there who doesn't ask themselves similar questions.

Either way, we all NEED to feel loved, especially around Valentine's Day. Love, sex, fantasies, and relationships are on our minds today...


Are You a Good Candidate for Psychoanalytic Treatment?

As we enter into the new year and make our resolutions, I wanted to go back to the beginning and answer the question, "Are you a good candidate for psychoanalytic treatment?"

Whether you've never been in any form of psychotherapy before or you can call yourself a therapy veteran, by the end of this post I hope that you'll be able to answer the question, "Is psychoanalysis right for me?"

Not everyone...

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How to Recognize the Signs of Childhood Depression

Similarly to how it manifests uniquely during adolescence versus adulthood, depression looks differently in early childhood as well. It is important to recognize the signs of childhood depression and to distinguish them from normal developmental milestones and behaviors. By the time you are finished reading this post, I hope that you'll be able to identify the signs that your child may be depressed and to separate them from...

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One Common Way that Depression Manifests in Adolescence (Hint: You’ve Probably Experienced it)

Last time, I spoke about depression and adolescence in general, listing 5 insights that every parent needs to know. Today, I want to talk about one common way that depression manifests itself during teenage years that will help you recognize the signs and take action early.

Specifically, I want to talk about depression and acting out. We've heard the expression "my kid is acting out" many times but...


Depression in Adolescence: 5 Insights Every Parent Needs to Know

1) Adolescence is a vulnerable period in the life of young people, marked by drastic hormonal changes in the body, rapid cognitive development, shifts in self-image, sexuality and peer relationships. This is a time for questioning one's beliefs, distancing oneself from parents, and challenging societal norms. It is a time for finding one's own place in the world in search of a unique identify, life goals and aspirations. It is a critical time but also a difficult period...