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“I Cut Myself”: A Parent Guide To Helping A Child Who Self Injures


Preteens and adolescents are kind enough to engage in all sorts of unpleasant behaviors.  Sneaking around, friends with others that we wish would just go away, questionable and/or overuse of phones and digital devices, relationships beginning and ending (sometimes with the speed of a trending hashtag) and experimenting with substances are all on the 'best of' list of adolescent behaviors that drive late nights, anxiety and googling phrases like 'Is it normal that my...


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Don’t Let Norman Rockwell Ruin Your Holidays

With the holidays upon us, it is easy to picture the perfect family season.  Everyone gathered together in perfect harmony, multiple generations of relatives unified by genetics or marriage smiling in unison and showing gratitude for all the work that is placed into creating a memory-defining moment.  And then there is everyone else’s family counting the minutes until dear Aunt Ginny decides to stop talking about politics, texting sympathetic friends sarcastic emojis and quotes that end in “…and she actually said that out loud” and trying to put the relationships and interactions in context for the kiddos.

Now that we are knee deep in holiday hoopla, here are some ways that we can work toward helping ourselves and our kids survive the holiday season and come out on the other side with memories that will allow our family to reminisce about the end of 2018……



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The Quest for Yes in Parenting

It happens to every parent. Like the villain in a scary movie, it can feel like there is a giant “NO” lurking around every corner. Sometimes we can take the blame. At other times, the requests or behavior of our child can put us on a constant collision course with “NO”.   Either way, it can be demoralizing to moms, dads and kids when parents are holding a Cal Ripken-like streak of “no’s” when all we want to do is offer up a single, solitary ‘yes’.



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The Importance of Generating Joy

While avoidance of anxiety, stress and sadness can provide temporary relief, intentionally focusing on generating joy can be a proactive way to curb negative affect. It can also make unpleasant feelings around stress become more manageable by acknowledging negative emotions and providing us with the capacity to experience, negotiate and see them as the temporary emotions that they are. 


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8 Lessons Written By Kids From “The Ultimate Parenting Manual”

Wouldn't it be great to to have the proverbial 'users manual' for each of our kids.  Parenting dilemmas would certainly be diminished and, theoretically, parent/kiddo relationships would be strengthened by our ability to refer to our child's 'answer key'.  While it might not be the teacher's edition to your child, there are a bevy of suggestions that tend to be elicited by the question "If you could teach your parents one thing that would make them a better parent, what would it be?"




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Immediate Help With Your Parenting Fatigue!

Parent fatigue is real.  While it often feels pretty lousy to manage our parenting responsibilities and compassion in a less-than-optimal manner, it likely occurs most when our resources are depleted.  It can be particularly frustrating for our parenting values and to our kids when those resources are diminished due to stresses outside of parent-related tasks such as work, sleep, non-parenting interpersonal difficulties, etc..  Research relating to veterans, clinicians and direct care providers identifies this as 'compassion fatigue', but it makes sense that we can generalize this to parents as well.