How to Encourage Resilience in Children

It seems that certain people are just made to handle adversity. No matter what comes their way they find a solution and don't seem overly concerned.

Though, resilience doesn't come out of nowhere. These people learned somewhere along the way how to deal with problems and find value within life's difficulties.

Why is resilience important?

Resilience offers protective factors against mental and physical illness, providing a buffer against stress, strain, and anxiety. When it comes to children, helping them understand risk factors in their life and how to face these competently is cruical to raising a confident and self-discplined children.


How to Have a More Positive and Loving Relationship

Humans are social creatures. We have a need to belong and connect with others.

Our most intimate relationships offer us support, meaning, and love, helping us to thrive and grow as people.

Since we influence others as much they influence us, the choices we make in our relationships will highly influence how they unfold.

Below you will find ideas to help foster more compassion, love, and support in your relationships.

Accentuate the positive

When a spouse or partner does something right, let them know. Make it a point to praise and emphasize positive behavior. Don't focus attention on the negative behavior you want to eliminate, but instead accentuate the positive behavior you want to increase. A great resource for this is Whale Done by Ken Blanchard.

Relationship success depends on a balance of offering compliments and praise along with negative criticism. Remember to compliment and express what you love about your partner.

The amount of conflict and criticism present in a relationship is a large predictor of the level of satisfaction and stability in the relationship.

Focus on the positive and start building trust and security.

Emotional Awareness

How to Regulate Emotions and Feel Better

We all have times when emotions get the best of us. We may have an angry outburst or be overcome with anxiety.

Though, by gaining self-awareness about how we feel and learning to regulate emotions, we can start to experience more positive emotions and elevate our mood.

Just as anger, sadness, and fear have a trigger, so to do positive emotions such as joy, passion, and love.

You can start to prompt positive emotions by learning how to recognize and manage emotional cues, what you think about, and the habits you have.

Here are a few skills to help you learn how to regulate emotions.


Want More Hope? Start Accomplishing Goals

The concept of hope and setting goals go hand-in-hand.

Our level of hope impacts the type of goals we set and how many goals we are working toward.

Likewise, the accomplishment of goals tends to increase hopeful feelings.

Think of a time when things were going well and you had achieved some important goals.

How did you feel about your future? The sky was probably the limit.

On the other hand, if you have ever felt hopeless, I'm sure your view of the future looked a little bleak, and you probably weren't looking to achieve important goals.

When we achieve goals it offers a feeling of hope for the future. We feel in control and ready to tackle our next task. It offers us energy and confidence to do what needs to be done.

So what is hope anyway?

Positive Psychology

Want to Know More About Positive Psychology and Happiness?

For many years psychology has focused on illness, taking a perspective of alleviating sickness as opposed to helping people reach their true potential and optimal level of functioning.

As Sigmund Freud has been quoted saying:

“I have found little that is ‘good’ about human beings on the whole. In my experience most of them are trash.”

I don't know your perspective or attitude toward people and society, but this is clearly about as pessimistic and cynical as it gets.

Thinking of psychology through a mental illness lens limits the scope of how the world can become a better place, and how we as individuals can reach our full potential.

Fortunately, scholars recognized that psychology had become far too negative, and that it was time to focus more on the positive traits, experiences, and values that could lead to greater happiness, success, and achievement in the individual person and world at large.

From this realization, the positive psychology movement was born, and research started to examine the full range of human behavior.