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Fulfillment

It’s Not What You Have But How You See it: How to Live With Contentment

Have you ever noticed that the more you have the more you want?

Let's face it. Seeing our life as good enough doesn't come naturally for many people any longer.

We live in a mixed-up and crazy culture where it's an ongoing commitment to temper greed, jealousy and ambition for more. We always have the options to have more, learn more and do more.

One key to living with contentment is to realize the...
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Happiness

Why Happiness is a Journey, Not a Destination

If I asked you what your biggest motivation is, what would you say?

Would you say it's to be successful, to have loving relationships, to make a difference in the world, or to be wealthy?

Maybe it's all of the above - though there is one common denominator for all of these: to be happy. We all want to be happy, right?

Some would say the search for happiness is the greatest motivator of humankind.

For...
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Happiness

Zest, Savoring and Happiness

Zest makes life better. Zestful people simply enjoy things more than people low in zestfulness, so when we talk about increasing our habitual level of happiness (what some call the “happiness set point”) then increasing our ability to feel zestful helps.

It is true that zestfulness is almost certainly an innate, inherited trait. But in the past few years, we have discovered that many of these traits are quite changeable. We can increase zest...
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Emotional Awareness

How Mindfulness Can Help You Regulate Emotions

Sometimes our emotions get the best of us. No matter how much we try to be aware of our triggers and keep calm, there will probably be times we simply lose our cool.

We live in a day and age where people are consumed with daily pressure and overloaded with stress from work, family, finances and other obligations.

What do you do to cope during these moments of stress and frustration?

Whether you're personally struggling...
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Happiness

A Recipe for Positive Thinking and Greater Well-being

The idea of positive thinking has been thrown around for many decades as the source of wealth, health and happiness.

From Norman Vincent Peale’s classic book The Power of Positive Thinking, to Al Fraken’s satiric self-help character Stuart Smally on Saturday Night Live, reminding us to affirm that, "I'm good enough, smart enough, and doggone it people like me."

Frankly, positive thinking has become such a popularized and commercial notion that many people...
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Fulfillment

Why “Good Enough” May be Better for Well-being

Have you ever run into a situation where you had so many options you couldn’t make a decision?

You wanted a little bit of everything and just couldn’t decide.

You could see the value in each choice or option, and because of this even after making a decision, you had buyer’s remorse and wished you would've chosen differently.

Sometimes having numerous options leaves us stuck in our desire to make sure we choose the best and...
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Happiness

Does Happiness Come from the Top-down or Bottom-up?

Have you ever noticed how two people in the same situation can respond totally differently? How can one person be so cheerful and positive, while the other person is so negative and downtrodden?

Are some people simply destined to be unhappy?

We all have a happiness set point. A baseline level of well-being that we return to after our emotional highs and lows subside. There is a level of heritability that is reflected in our personality, temperament, and overall affect.

Fortunately...
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Happiness

Make Your Goals Engaging and Meaningful this New Year

As you consider any habits or unhealthy behavior you want to work on this New Year, there are two questions to ask yourself before making any resolutions:

First, why do you want to reach your resolution?

What's the purpose you want to lose weight, quite smoking, or give up caffeine?

I imagine you believe it will make you happier and more fulfilled. For many people, enhancing our well-being is a major reason we make lifestyle changes.

Secondly,...
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General

Can People Be Too Happy?

Everyone goes through life in search of happiness. We work to relieve pain, experience pleasure, and reach our goals to be satisfied with our life.

But what if we are already pretty happy? Does it serve a purpose to work to find ultra-happiness?

Many believe that success leads to happiness. This sends us on a mission to achieve more, be more, and do more in the name of happiness and living life to the...
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6 Variables that Predict Happiness and Life-Satisfaction

Do you think and feel positively about your life?

I know many people who would say they are happy and highly satisfied with their life. I also know many people who are dissatisfied and discontent with their life situation.

What is the difference between those who have positive well-being and those who are suffering?

There are many personal and social factors that play a role in our level of happiness, though they may not...
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