Archives for December, 2011

Happiness

Does Happiness Come from the Top-down or Bottom-up?

Have you ever noticed how two people in the same situation can respond totally differently? How can one person be so cheerful and positive, while the other person is so negative and downtrodden?

Are some people simply destined to be unhappy?

We all have a happiness set point. A baseline level of well-being that we return to after our emotional highs and lows subside. There is a level of heritability that is reflected in our personality, temperament, and overall affect.

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Spirituality

Grow Your Spiritual Muscle for Greater Well-Being

An often highly contentious topic of conversation is religion. Religious beliefs are deeply rooted and hard held convictions for many people. Because these beliefs can be so firm, it may lead to strong animosity and conflict when opposing extremes meet.

Many people are skeptical and question whether religion does more harm than good because of this acrimony.

Despite the controversy, religion and its benefits aren't something to be mocked or disparaged.

In the bigger picture, religious...
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Happiness

Make Your Goals Engaging and Meaningful this New Year

As you consider any habits or unhealthy behavior you want to work on this New Year, there are two questions to ask yourself before making any resolutions:

First, why do you want to reach your resolution?

What's the purpose you want to lose weight, quite smoking, or give up caffeine?

I imagine you believe it will make you happier and more fulfilled. For many people, enhancing our well-being is a major reason we make lifestyle changes.

Secondly,...
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Health

Do You Take a Holiday Vacation to Enhance Your Well-being and Health?

Over the year stress can add up at work, and that once far off holiday vacation starts to look really appealing.

For most professionals the end of the year is an ideal time to take a vacation and get away from the responsibilities and demands that have consumed most of the past 11 months.

Holidays can be stressful in themselves, however, if we don't organize some free time and plan how we're going to manage...
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Relationships

How to Start Focusing on What’s Positive About Your Partner

Every relationship has its high and low points; people change, we experience unexpected misfortune, and sometimes we simply forget the effort required to make relationships work.

It's during these times that the durability and fortitude of a relationship can be seen. Conflict is going to happen but it doesn't have to last and turn into bitterness and resentment.

As we learn to find and accentuate the positive in our relationships they...
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Relationships

Have an Altruistic Christmas by Giving Back to Others

As the holiday season closes in, it leads me to sympathize with the many communities that lack caring, kindness and unity.

It's easy to go through life with our own personal priorities and forget about everyone else.

We can have so many things to do with so little time to do them, that we forget to look at the bigger picture beyond ourselves.

Though more than ever, our society is in need of caring and responsible citizens willing to help...
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Fulfillment

Put the Wind in Your Sails by Using Your Strengths

We all have strengths and weaknesses of character. For some people it's natural and fulfilling to learn, be curious, and use creativity.

For others, they are prone to serving, being kind, and developing spiritually.

Positive psychologists call these attributes signature strengths, and they are what lead people to optimal functioning and performance.

Using our strengths energizes us, and generates enthusiasm and excitement. We will also be more alert and engaged in what we do.

Unfortunately...
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Fulfillment

Three Ways to Expand and Grow as a Person

Life is full of transition and change. It is full of many moments where we learn about who we really are and what life really means to us.

Much of the growth we experience is when we are able to overcome challenges, move beyond our comfort zone, and become a more virtuous and refined person.

Positive psychology offers a few considerations that can help us be stronger in difficult times and begin to look...
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General

Can People Be Too Happy?

Everyone goes through life in search of happiness. We work to relieve pain, experience pleasure, and reach our goals to be satisfied with our life.

But what if we are already pretty happy? Does it serve a purpose to work to find ultra-happiness?

Many believe that success leads to happiness. This sends us on a mission to achieve more, be more, and do more in the name of happiness and living life to the...
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