About Carmen Sakurai

Carmen is a Certified Life Strategist, Cognitive and Dialectical Behavioral Coach Specializing in Codependency Recovery, 2x Best Selling Author, and Advocate for Victims of Narcissistic Abuse.

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Her mission is to help overfunctioning and codependent women undo destructive thought & behavior patterns, so they have the confidence to defend their boundaries, find their voice, and live in alignment with their authentic selves.

Carmen’s personal experiences in overcoming narcissistic abuse and codependency are what consistently fuels her passion for this work.


Carmen has over 20 years of education, training, and extensive personal and professional experiences including a BSc in Psychology, Certification in Cognitive Behavioral Life Coaching, Certifications in Mental and Behavioral Health Studies with focus on stress management, burnout prevention, suicide/violent behavior, and depression, and having demonstrated her ability to effectively and successfully serve her clients via digital platform, earned her Digital Coaching Certification.

She has trained in Strategic Intervention (which encompass: human needs psychology, strategic therapy, social action therapy, direct and indirect negotiation, structural family therapy, life-cycle theory of business organization, mediation and conflict resolution techniques, and organizational psychology); and utilize the Triangle of Conflict (a process to help individuals reconnect with core emotions like joy, anger, sadness, fear, and excitement for a more engaged and authentic Self).

You can find her articles on popular websites including Lifehack, SheKnows, Thrive Global, Ricky Martin’s Piccolo Universe, Little Things, and Thought Catalog.

Services & Resources

Her website CarmenSakurai.com offers newsletters and articles to simply and clearly communicate the importance of personal boundaries and how to recover from codependency and overfunctioning. Her online courses include “Girlfriend’s Guide to Trusting Your YUCK Reaction” and “Girlfriend’s Guide to Holding Your Own without Losing Yourself.” She also offers Coaching by Text.

Her podcast, Choose You! Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse, is available on iTunes, Spotify, and on your favorite podcast app. The podcast includes an optional private group to support, validate, and further educate survivors of narcissistic abuse.


Carmen currently resides in Las Vegas, NV with her son, a premed preparing to become a cardiothoracic surgeon. She is a 1-3rd grade religious education teacher at her church.

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About Permission to Thrive

This blog examines topics including:

  • Setting and defending healthy boundaries
  • Narcissistic abuse recovery
  • Overcoming codependency
  • Strategies to stop overfunctioning
  • Stress and burnout
  • Mental decluttering
  • Self-love, Self-esteem, Self-respect, and Self-worth


Scientifically Reviewed
Last updated: 29 Aug 2020
Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 29 Aug 2020
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