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Mean Girls and Bullying Boys: Pitfalls and Lessons for Parents

"Isn't it kind of silly to think that tearing someone else down builds you up?"  -Sean Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens

Just a few days ago, I was meeting with two teenage girls and their mom and dad. The parents wanted counseling to help them lessen the conflict and emotional volatility of their communications. The younger daughter, soon to go into eight grade, suddenly announced that she wanted to...
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8 Insights to Keep Love Alive in Intimate Relationships

"Love doesn't just sit there, like a stone; it has to be made, like bread, remade all the time, made new."   -Ursula K. LeGuin

In thirty-five years of counseling couples and families, I have continually been reminded about how little most of us are taught about specific tasks and principles for building and maintaining happy, loving relationships. There seems to be a myth afoot: once married, the relationship grows on its...
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Americans Get the Gold Medal for Anxiety

“As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler; solitude will not be solitude, poverty will not be poverty, nor weakness weakness.” -Henry David Thoreau

NEWSFLASH!: The United States gets the gold! We have become the nation with the highest level of anxiety in the world. According to a recent study by the World Health Organization, 31 percent of Americans are likely to suffer from an anxiety...
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7 Hints for Setting Boundaries with Your Kids

"The most important thing parents can give their children is love. The second most important thing is discipline."    -T. Berry Brazelton,

Many parents today could use some serious coaching on how to create healthier boundaries with their kids. Just spend some time at a park where lots of families hang out and you'll know what I mean.

You will notice moms and dads asking kids to do something (or stop...
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Happy Families Have Healthy Boundaries: Part 1

“No" is a complete sentence.” - Anne Lamott

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." - Eleanor Roosevelt

Are you frustrated because you have to tell your child to do something ten times before she listens? Are you exhausted because you are doing more than your fair share of the housework? How often do you say things out loud or to yourself like: "He makes me feel stupid," or "I'm depressed...
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