Emotions

The 3 Essential Steps to Self-Compassion

We generally feel good about ourselves when we’ve achieved a meaningful goal, believe ourselves to be “on top of things”, and receive positive feedback from others. The challenge lies in dealing with those times when we’re off our game, disappoint ourselves or someone important to us, or fail to get something we value. At such moments,...

Mental Health

The Power Of A Support Group

"When you're weary, feeling small, When tears are in your eyes, I'll dry them all" Paul SimonIn my first hospitalization when I was thrust into group therapy I really didn't grasp the concept. 

General

What You Take for Granted May be the Key to Happiness

Taking things for granted is natural and necessary. If we could take nothing for granted, we'd be stuck in a neverending battle with overwhelming uncertainty and worry.Is the sun going to rise tomorrow? Probably a good idea to assume it will and go about your day.What you take for granted is one less...

Hope

Today I Love This Ragged Lawn

The lawn says, "forget-me-not"Today I love this ragged lawn of dandelions and clover and maple saplings and some grass. I love that it is bio-diverse enough that I feel good about it. I love that it is going to get mowed today, even though I truly believe that...

General

Never Better Than Now

What is ordinary perfection?This morning I'll let Walt Whitman make my point: There was never any more inception than there is now. Nor any more youth or age than there is now, And will never be any more perfection than there is now.Ordinary perfection is when we stop comparing "what is" with "what should be" and we notice "what...

Attraction

What Great Marriages Require

Linda: When Charlie and I left the home of Rachel and Nehemia Cohen after our first interview with them, we agreed that we would never again complain that we were too busy or...

General

Top Myths About Low Sexual Desire

Top Myths About Low Sexual Desire.Photo by Jared Sluyter on Unsplash Low sexual desire or mismatched libido in a couple is the single most common reason I hear from couples who reach out to me for sex therapy. Despite the fact that the issue of low sexual desire is a very common complaint,...

Depression

8 Important Truths About Grief

My father died a month ago, after a short and painful descent into dementia.While I expected his death, what surprised me was the path of grief that the loss of my father took me on. I found myself consulting colleagues, friends, and even Google in an attempt to identify if what I was experiencing was normal.What I...

General

Stop Procrastinating: Finish Your Script

What happens when you procrastinate? You might feel tired, or lost. You might  feel unsure about your writing choices.  You might have doubts  or fears of not being good enough. You might have a fear of being judged.How do you deal with these fears?During the first draft you can get away with a “good enough’ version....

affairs

Recovering from infidelity: What do you want your future to be?

After the affair is over, there are many questions to answer and points to consider.Likely you will ask yourself, "Will my family survive?"More than that, you are wondering, "Do I even want my marriage or committed relationship to survive with my cheating partner?"Your future is unknown, and you ask, "What will happen to me and the lives...

General

Self-Care III: Taking it On the Road

I love all the ideas and stories that poured in from friends when I asked for your thoughts on taking self-care on the road. Such a variety of needs and so many good “life hacks” to meet them.My favorite (or not) story came from my sister, who travels often for business and has to bring ice packs...

General

The Parenting Lesson of the Royal Wedding

At least they have their fascinators on. So, we got that going for us, which is nice.I can’t stop thinking about the Royal Wedding.You bet your tushy we watched it. A friend came over with fascinators, homemade scones, and clotted cream. I broke a cardinal rule of...