Hope

Today I Love Newly Repaired Steps

Stepping up the sturdiness ...Today I love newly repaired steps and a list of other projects that are going to be tackled today and in the coming weeks. I love that there are things I can do, things I've done often enough as a contractor, that add ease and...


childhood trauma

The Perils of Perfectionism and Feeling Not Good Enough

Perfectionism is a self destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame.  ― Brené BrownThe Origins of Perfectionism The unfortunate reality is that most of us suffer from perfectionism to one degree or...


Mental Health

When You Reach Your Limit

"Hey you, don't tell me there's no hope at all, Together we stand, divided we fall" Roger WatersI am a minister in the Church of Christ. In fact, according to the Bible,...


Relationships

Are You Ashamed to Be Seen With Him in Public?

My last column was 6 Easy Things to Do, to Make Your Life 5% Better. They work.In July, even if we're stuck at work or at home, we remember past summers, and going someplace warm with a lot of water, possibly salt. Summer at the seashore. So here's your cartoon for that.Does your Significant Other do well in social situations, or does he have...


Creative Thinking

23 Prompts to Explore Regularly

The week can feel like one big blur. One day runs into the next, which runs into the one after that. Which is why writing can be tremendously helpful.Even reflecting on your day and journaling about it for just five minutes can help you to savor sweet or important moments, and to see...


Mental Health

What You Make Of It

"Honesty is such a lonely word, Everyone is so untrue, Honesty is hardly ever heard, And mostly what I need from you" Billy Joel Life is what you make of it. In every...


Hope

Today I Love My Family

Lazy outdoor office, it's like I haven't moved since yesterday.Today I love my family, I love that today is the fifty-sixth occurrence of my family's McKinlay Reunion, love that we are still doing this, love that I have been to all of them except maybe one. I love that...


Dementia

Crossing The Line

"Past the point of no return, The final threshold, The bridge is crossed, so stand and watch it burn, We've passed the point of no return" Jeff Limbo / Hank Sherman / Pete SteinerIn...


General

Are You Recovering From A Narcissistic Parent?

If so, how you can find a way to come to terms with the psychological injuries of the past, and to stop the old toxic experiences from contaminating and spoiling your present life?  How do you recover from an upbringing with a narcissistic parent?If you were raised by a parent who suffered from narcissistic personality...


Hope

Today I Love Petrichor

Coffee to go ... homeToday I love petrichor and the fact that I got to experience it twice yesterday because neither rain we had yesterday was enough to remove the earths potential to produce that wonderfully inspiring smell. I love rare smells like big, still water, and petrichor,...


Female sexuality

Turned on but not in the mood for sex. Is that normal?

 Have you ever felt like you were not in the mood for sex but were able to get yourself aroused and wondered if that is normal? It is completely normal! In fact, it is a very common occurrence especially among women in long-term relationships to get aroused and even reach orgasm but not feel sexual...