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Archives for January, 2015

Acceptance

Are You In Charge of Your Life?


Unhealthy use of language


The use of language that includes terms such as have to, should, shouldn’t, and can’t is disempowering. When we think that way, we are not fully in charge of our lives. When all our behavior is based on conscious intention and choice, we are then in full command of our life. What follows is a way of living mindfully in order to be in charge of your life.
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Acceptance

Are You Ashamed of Yourself?

The first time I facilitated a daylong workshop at the very well-known Spirit Rock Meditation Center in Woodacre, California, I felt a very frightening level of anxiety before the event. The source of it was that I had bought into my belief that I didn’t deserve to be presenting there. I had been a participant at many such workshops at Spirit Rock, and all the presenters were well known in their fields and experienced...
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Acceptance

How to Practice Resilience

Resilience can be cultivated by making a practice of identifying and then acting in accordance with your personal life values. It is important to approach this as a life practice. In fact, author George Leonard referred to this way of living as mastery in his book by that title.

You might think that practicing throughout the day, every day, would get tedious and exhausting. But what actually happens is that it becomes a source of a newfound...
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Authenticity, Transparency

Don’t Believe Everything You Think

Resilience is cultivated through a wide variety of practices. One of the most effective is the practice of objectively observing your thought processes without buying in to them.

The reason this builds resilience is because emotional distress and its accompanying physiological stress are less the result of events than of the attributions we assign to those events—our thoughts and beliefs about them—and our cognitive fusion with those attributions.
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Acceptance

What Does It Mean To Be Resilient?

The longer we live, the more we are confronted by serious challenges, such as life-threatening or debilitating illnesses and losses of spouse and other loved ones.

When confronted by catastrophic loss, some people collapse into a hopeless, helpless, state of mind, often relying on alcohol or other addictions, while resilient people are able to meet those same challenges, grow from them, and continue to live rich, rewarding lives.
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Acceptance

Does Acceptance Reduce Suffering?

Self-Acceptance and Ambiguity


Those of us who live with chronic medical conditions often live with ambiguity, uncertain whether disease will recur, or whether opportunistic infections may set in, or whether a new treatment protocol will work. Some of us never know when our plans will have to be changed because of symptom flare-ups. However, there are many researchers who have demonstrated that an intentional acceptance practice increases wellbeing, which reduces the suffering from chronic pain, fatigue,...
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Social Support & Belonging in Community

Helping Others is Good for You

We have a universal need to feel connected to others. Although we can survive in isolation, we cannot thrive without a sense of belonging and membership in some type of community. One of the very best ways to thrive in community is to find ways to reach out and help others.

Many studies have shown that the healthiest and happiest people are commonly the first to offer helping hands, in particular to coworkers and strangers. In her...
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Happiness & Wellbeing

Friends Are Vital For Your Health, Part 2

Based on the evidence presented in my last article, entitled Friends Are Vital For Your Health, Part 1, I have a number of recommendations that can result in greatly increased social connections.

There are many things you can do to improve health. You probably already know about the importance of eating a nutrient-dense diet, stress-management, and getting enough daily exercise and sleep. What you may be less aware of is the association between social connections and...
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