4 thoughts on “How People With Asperger’s Can Be Charismatic

  • September 14, 2016 at 6:17 am

    Found your blog via Wrong Planet and first of all I just wanted to say that I really enjoy your writing! You’re funny, compelling, and relatable. Very glad to have found this blog.

    As a lesbian, though, there’s a sentence in 9 Guidelines For Dating With Aspergers that really bothered me (commenting here because WP is too messy and I don’t want to get account): “If you’re a woman on the spectrum and you feel like that’s literally the ONLY REASON anybody talks to you, you might take that even harder than most women. You want a nice guy who’s going to like you for your other qualities too.”

    I don’t want a nice guy – I don’t want any guy! Please, please don’t forget about lesbians next time you write such a general piece about love and dating. It sucks a lot to feel so left out in the aspie community when topics regarding relationships are so extremely and obviously geared towards straight people and people dating the opposite sex. Particularly when it’s actually relationships that being on the spectrum means I have a hard time with in the first place.

    Noticed you wrote “if you’re a man, then not only do you have to keep your partner around, but you have to get her (or him) hooked to begin with” and because of that got the impression you’re not a lost cause haha.

    • September 14, 2016 at 7:41 am

      Hi Ida! Thanks for stopping by!

      Thanks for pointing that out. As a heterosexual woman, I don’t always feel like I know enough about the LGBTQ world to comment on it. I do know that there are a lot of queer people in the aspie community though. I can think of two gay guys in particular from college who were colorful aspie characters. I’ll try to be more inclusive in the future!

  • September 10, 2018 at 6:19 pm

    You’re fucking amazing. <3

    -terra from PsychCentral's Unapologetically Aspie

  • May 4, 2019 at 3:02 am

    All that I can say is “wow”! You have never met me and you have just described me to a tee! (Did I spell that right, as in golf?!!!)


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