2 thoughts on “Three Simple Steps to Understanding your Emotions

  • May 23, 2017 at 10:41 pm

    I like the idea of riddling various feelings to quantify the what, the how the where from and the size of them. Particularly important for those of us who have been affected by PTSD, where the processing has been blocked, by the effects of fear.
    Grading exposure in this way can isolate the biggies which need more attention and which still operate in this way.
    On and off I’d been doing exposure stuff in a macho bravado way at the place where it had all happened to me, but last time, in a somewhat slower and longer exposure, this hit the shakes button and I got that awful welling feeling which must have affected that toddler, I’d been.
    Luckily my all dancing and singing camera didn’t, and the picture came out fine.
    However, I was very pleased to wobble creakily back to my car and then reflect on the what might have been all those years ago.
    I also realised it was Ok to feel scared shitless, its a normal reaction, and I’m allowed to have those in those sort of circumstances.

  • May 31, 2017 at 1:49 am

    I am not familiar with NLP so I probably shouldn’t comment in ignorance. That being said, though I totally agree that it would be helpful for us to be more in touch with our emotions, I tend to be stuck in my head so to speak. I can think about them–the whys, what triggered the emotion and feel them to a certain extent but negative emotions are difficult for me!
    In theory, your exercise makes some sense –despite sounding somewhat “new age” to me. For instance, what if an emotion truly is just an emotion? I might try for example to “locate” anxiety in my body and, became my neck is sore, tell myself or a therapist that is where the anxiety is located but what if that’s not true at all? What if instead it is due to 6 hours at the computer? Or sleeping “wrong”?
    Personally, I’m not so sure our feelings HAVE a location or a shape. But that’s just me!


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