3 thoughts on “8 Signs you Don’t Feel Emotionally Safe in your Relationship

  • December 4, 2015 at 12:24 am

    Number 3 is only partiality accurate. I don’t feel the need, nor do I find it necessary to share every little thing/habit I do or have outside of my relationship with my mate. I also don’t need to be kept abreast of his personal interests/habits while he’s away from me.
    Unless it is cheating or a dangerous addiction, there’s no need to tell everything you do.
    I’m not going to share that I LOVE to window shop till I drop, have a two hour lunch date with the girls, or have an excessive web surfing day on my days off/my away from him time.
    That’s my personal regrouping from work stress and personal space time from him & vice-versa.
    I trust my mate and he trusts me. There’s no need to share every single activity or thought.
    We are separate individuals with our own interests. What we enjoy doing together we do in large amounts of quality time. The personal space we have away from each other is what makes those shared interests and activities special.

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  • June 7, 2017 at 6:40 pm

    My husband is like Jekyll & Hyde. His moods shifts keep me on constant edge so that even when he seems to be in a great mood, I can’t enjoy our time together because I know it won’t take long before he’s angry about something.
    It’s exhausting. I’m exhausted. I don’t feel emotionally safe. I feel exhausted and sad.

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    • November 19, 2017 at 11:52 am

      I have a sister that’s like this with the mood swings. She’ll be in a good mood, but a half hour later she is quiet, and distant. Even if there is an argument she is not the one to talk it through, she will shut down completely. I wonder if these personality people realize the hard work we do for them and the effort we make for them like appreciate it at all. Instead of getting caught up in their own emotions they can get on with some sort of structured schedule. Ask them what they like and make it for them on a daily basis, and in return try to get them to return the favor. Maybe instead of getting caught up in their ocean current of fluctuating emotions they can focus on the relationship between the two of you and making you happy. One a side note my sister is always there and has my back like if anything goes bad so maybe just find out what it is that you can count on your partner for and make them feel more needed.

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