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  • October 22, 2015 at 6:53 am

    You’re assuming that I would be resisting a positive change… but all changes are not positive. I would think that a lot of people resist changes because they can’t imagine that the advantages are better than the negative impact… even when it’s not fully conscious.

    And positive to most doesn’t mean positive to me. For example, it is a popular cultural bias for people to think that as a full grown woman trying to get married would be a positive change, but really I can’t imagine myself as a home person. I seek travel, career moves that bring me to different cultures, the ability to work for 30 days straight to get a project done, and then the ability to just leave for a week somewhere to rest before I start the next project or the next phase of the project, which may or may not be as intense.

    The contraints of family life are not a good fit to my personality and what makes me happy.

    I have a very healthy lifestyle by most standards, so people don’t bug me to change that much, but for those who have more items that would be considered outside the norm, or for those who can’t justify their choices as easily, I can imagine things getting heavy. I’m a computer programmer, so it’s easy to tell people that I make a good living; they see that I have no money issues and fair better than the average programmer. However, an artist with the exact same lifestyle, but little revenues would feel way more pressure to change from the outside. They would be told that their inability to conform and/or commit to a 9 to 5 job is unhealthy and that they deserve better… but is it better?

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