And that is nearly impossible, but we’ll try.
The Self is the part of you that:
• Feels like “just you”
• Feels your age (not your inner child)
• Does not get triggered – remains calm
• Is curious and compassionate
• Feels grounded
According to Internal Family Systems, the above describes the Self with a capital “S”.
If there’s a Self such as this, are there other “parts” of the personality? There must be – this is where the inner child, inner critic, and the parts of you that remain segregated, pushing their individual agendas and “hijacking” your Self when they deem necessary.
The result of this is inner conflict, the classic dilemma we endure throughout our lives.
Taking care of the Self in a fundamental way involves clear space for it and reducing the occurrence of hijacking by various (normal) parts.
This is parts psychology and it’s as old as the hills, although it doesn’t get much mainstream attention.