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Quick Thought on Taking Care of your Self

self partsBefore we talk about taking care of yourself, we should define the Self.

And that is nearly impossible, but we’ll try.

The Self is the part of you that:

• Feels like “just you”
• Feels your age (not your inner child)
• Does not get triggered – remains calm
• Is curious and compassionate
• Feels grounded

According to Internal Family Systems, the above describes the Self with a capital “S”.

If there’s a Self such as this, are there other “parts” of the personality? There must be – this is where the inner child, inner critic, and the parts of you that remain segregated, pushing their individual agendas and “hijacking” your Self when they deem necessary.

The result of this is inner conflict, the classic dilemma we endure throughout our lives.

Taking care of the Self in a fundamental way involves clear space for it and reducing the occurrence of hijacking by various (normal) parts.

This is parts psychology and it’s as old as the hills, although it doesn’t get much mainstream attention.

Quick Thought on Taking Care of your Self

Mike Bundrant

Mike Bundrant is the author of Your Achilles Eel: Discover and Overcome the Hidden Cause of Negative Emotions, Bad Decisions and Self-Sabotage and co-founder at The iNLP Center which offers online certification in Neuro-Linguistic Programming and life coaching.

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Bundrant, M. (2018). Quick Thought on Taking Care of your Self. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 31, 2020, from


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