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How to Stop Complaining About Things You Don’t Want to Do

take for grantedIt’s normal. We all complain like children about tedious tasks, but it’s not necessary. Life could be so much more enjoyable if we approached the tedium with a different mindset.

Which mindset?


Here’s how to get there

Just think of something you’re grateful for that requires the tedious task. So many unwanted tasks are the result of wonderful things that we’ve taken for granted. You’ve gotten so used to the blessings and have forgotten how lucky you are.

For example:

Doing the dishes: Having food to eat and a place to live with hot running water. What a blessing. There are people in the world who don’t have any of this.

Lame reports for work: You have a job that puts food on the table (so you can do the dishes:)

Taking out the trash: Ditto. You’re able to buy things with byproducts that you have to throw away. Would you rather not be able to buy those things so you can avoid taking out the trash?

Honey-do lists: Hey guys – does your wife or partner have a list of tedious to-do’s just for you? Every one of those tasks is a symbol that you’ve got someone in your life who does a lot for you, whether you recognize it or not.

Paying the bills: Imagine not having the services for which you’re paying. How’d that be?

You get the idea. Instead of whining about all the little pain-in-the-butt things we have to do, why not be grateful that we have them to do. If all these little tasks didn’t exist, we’d lose the advantages that come with them.

Still, we may love complaining more than being grateful and happy.

Try it out for yourself

  1. Write down a task that you hate doing
  2. Write down the blessing behind that task
  3. While doing the task, be grateful for the blessing
  4. Be much happier

Read more posts about gratitude here. 

How to Stop Complaining About Things You Don’t Want to Do

Mike Bundrant

Mike Bundrant is the author of Your Achilles Eel: Discover and Overcome the Hidden Cause of Negative Emotions, Bad Decisions and Self-Sabotage and co-founder at The iNLP Center which offers online certification in Neuro-Linguistic Programming and life coaching.

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Bundrant, M. (2018). How to Stop Complaining About Things You Don’t Want to Do. Psych Central. Retrieved on November 29, 2020, from


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