I’m pleased to present this guest post by Laura Coe.
We all know what physical weight is, but emotional weight isn’t about your waistline. It’s the emotional burden you carry through life. Now, we can measure that weight so you can know how to let it go.
How Emotional Weight Accumulates
In this post, I’ll further explain emotional weight and show how reducing it will leave you lighter, freer, and ready to take on all life has to offer.
Every day we accept messages from the outside world without consciously questioning the value of those messages. Outside of conscious awareness, ideas pile up on top of our true desires, and we become weighed down. You could even say we become emotionally obese.
Over time, layers of thoughts, judgments, and fears smother our authentic selves. We have all done it: justifying the job we don’t find fulfilling, staying in a painful relationship, or the avoiding important decisions for fear of the unknown.
We tell ourselves statements like:
This is fine.
This will pay the bills.
This is how life is.
After a while, we slowly begin to dread our lives. We want to feel better, but we may not even be aware of what is wrong or what to do about it.
I know because I suffered many years with unconscious emotional weight. I left a high-paying job after I sold my company, in pursuit of something “more authentic.” What felt like a simple goal turned into a two-year, dog-chasing-tail exercise, leaving me emotionally exhausted.
But it also motivated me to find a solution which would allow me to let go of my chronic emotional burden and live from a place of authenticity – to really be true to myself. So I dove back into my original passion, philosophy, to see what the ancients said about this problem. I was not the alone in my desire for a life that felt more authentic and free of emotional burden.
Then I saw an opportunity to bridge the gap between the wisdom of the ages and today.
I wrote a book about it, but that did not feel like enough. I wanted to do more. In my business career, I spent years developing complex healthcare models for chronic diseases, applying technology and design to make treatment for patients more accessible.
When I realized I could apply my healthcare design and modeling skills to help people understand and ease their emotional burden in life, I was inspired.
The Emotional Scale Breakthrough
I created a scale to measure emotional weight. After all, how can you fix what you can’t measure or even see? We can hop on a traditional scale to see if we’ve gained or lost pounds, but what if we’ve gained unwanted emotional burden? How can we know that? This is what my emotional scale measures.
When developing the scale, I looked back to my philosophy notes to find connections between ancient themes and modern teachings. I paired down the primary concepts into simple questions that anyone could answer – a quiz.
After answering the questions on the emotional scale, you are given a report much like the reports I used to create for physicians, except this report is easy to read and understand.
How can you fix what you don’t recognize?
The relationship problems you face are more related to your unconscious patterns than they are to the common story you tell yourself and your friends.
The career concerns you face are less about your boss, lack of mobility, lack of opportunity, office politics and so forth… and more about your mindset.
Imagine being able to see so clearly – and without self-victimization – the emotional burden you are carrying so that you can set it down and move on freely. That’s the point of the emotional scale.
When I discovered the truth – that the only thing in my way was my own emotional weight – I took the time to shed those unwanted pounds. And I found what I was searching for: me. My authentic voice, my truth, my ability to create a life I desired was not on a distant island or within a trusted friend’s viewpoint. It was where it should be – within me. I had lost track of my true self under layers of slowly-accumulated emotional weight.
If I can measure my emotional burden and let it go, you can too
Now I can happily say I have lost the emotional weight. I have not found a life free of problems, but a life that is genuinely mine. Without blame, anger, or victimhood, I have been able to guide my daily choices from a place of inner wisdom, not emotional burden. This has made all the difference.
At one time, I was upside down. I made choices from the outside-in. Now, I am able to access my inner-truth and work with what the world has to offer. I don’t always get what I want, but I am clear about who I am. This is what matters most.
Hop on the emotional scale and see what weighs you down
I work with clients daily to help them move towards the life they want. The work begins with the emotional scale. We work on locating misguided, impostor thoughts. These are thoughts we have picked up and may even believe, but undermine our goals.
Of course, nothing gets solved without work. We can’t get into physical shape without being aware of the need, then eating well and exercising consistently. Likewise, we can’t get into emotional shape without working on specific emotional burdens. This begins with a clear assessment of your emotional weight.
Once you discover the element of your emotional life that needs greater fitness (fear, need for approval, false assumption, blame, resentment, anger) you need to address this emotional burden so you can find a life that is lighter, freer, and more fulfilled.
We are emotional beings so we will always have emotional responses to the world, but we don’t have to live in a state of chronic emotional distress. Without this burden of stress, anxiety, jealousy, resentment or whatever emotional state causes you to feel heavy, you have more freedom, joy and inner peace.
Hop on the emotional scale here to begin the process of losing excess emotional weight.
Laura co-founded Litholink Corporation, a healthcare company currently serving over 350,000 patients per month nationally.
When Litholink sold to a Fortune 500 company, she stayed on as an executive before she left corporate America to pursue lifelong passions.
Even while working in corporate healthcare, Laura always specialized in breaking down complex concepts for to make them easy to digest, understand, and apply. Now, she channels that unique skill into “translating” philosophy and ancient wisdom – breaking down monumental, life-changing wisdom in a way that everyone can apply to their own lives.
Laura’s goal is to help people achieve authentic success – success defined by each individual in their terms. Laura currently devotes her energy toward writing, podcasting, coaching, and helping others implement spiritual teachings in their everyday lives. Her first book is available for purchase and her podcast, The Art of Authenticity, has been downloaded nearly 100K times since inception less than a year ago.