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Relationship Advice – 5 Ways to Deepen Your Relationship

Here is some helpful and relatively simple relationship advice for those desiring deeper connections in their relationships. By integrating these relationship advice tips, as a result, your bond with your partner should grow deeper and more fulfilling.

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Using the principles of NLP can help you develop deep connection in a relationship, giving you all the exciting elements while built on a solid foundation.

Deep rapport, as it applies to NLP and relationships, is connection, understanding, and trust, designed for a long-term pair bond, rather than, the more superficial type of rapport that comes to mind in business or general social situations.

Here are 5 ways, starting on the surface and going further and further to the core, that you can develop and enhance a base of deep rapport, for a relationship of true fulfillment.

Relationship Advice #1

Identify your partner’s personal trance words. These are simply words that are generally loaded with a greater amount of meaning for that individual. Words that your partner repeatedly uses to describe thoughts, feelings, and experiences are clues to their values. These words can enhance rapport through repeating them, or through reflecting them back with the same general end values implied.

Relationship Advice #2

Imagine what a deep relationship looks like. Make a list of the images that stand out to you.

  • What do those relationships look like?
  • How do the two people interact in good times and bad?
  • How close do they stand to each other?
  • How much physical touch do they have? And so on.

Now, begin modeling those relationships you imagine. Don’t just simply model in the sense of emulating, but use the NLP meaning of modeling.  NLP modeling is that “there is a method and process for discovering the patterns used by outstanding individuals in any field to achieve outstanding results.” If you can look for the underlying structures that you see in real life examples of deep rapport, you can institute those for yourselves.

Relationship Advice #3 and #4

Visualize what deep rapport means to you, and ask yourself questions that would imply the state of deep rapport with your partner. Pay attention to the associated feelings. Visualization, in spite of what the word implies, can start from any of the main representational systems (visual, auditory, and kinesthetic).

Ask yourself:

What would it look/sound/feel like if you could communicate with your partner without even saying a word?

What if you felt completely understood, and knew that you gave the feeling of understanding as well?

How would your partner feel if they looked in your eyes and felt an overwhelming sense of connection and joy? Furthermore, how would they look, and what would the glimmer in their eyes look like reflected back at you?

Relationship Advice #5

Amplify and create more shared experiences, as a result, you will build a treasure trove of loving and vivid memories. According to research “couples intensely in love reported participating in novel, engaging, and challenging activities together.” Here are some things you can do:

  • You are building a map of your world together.
  • Look at your past and recall some of your favorite date memories together.
  • Talk about them and create a present feeling of those events.
  • Think of date ideas that can create new memories and shared experiences.
  • Learn a new skill together.

Do things that can deepen these neural pathways to twist and combine together, therefore, when you look at the world and your new skills you see your partner in them as well.

These five concepts can branch off into a lifetime of learning, living, and loving together, thereby, continuously renewing your initial spark. Contact us today for more information on creating a long-lasting relationship through the use of NLP.

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Relationship Advice – 5 Ways to Deepen Your Relationship

Mike Bundrant

Mike Bundrant is the author of Your Achilles Eel: Discover and Overcome the Hidden Cause of Negative Emotions, Bad Decisions and Self-Sabotage and co-founder at The iNLP Center which offers online certification in Neuro-Linguistic Programming and life coaching.

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Bundrant, M. (2016). Relationship Advice – 5 Ways to Deepen Your Relationship. Psych Central. Retrieved on December 5, 2019, from


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