Worrying about your children in reasonable doses for example, can help you to take preventative action against things that could be potentially dangerous to them.
Taking precautions and having concern for your health provides motivation to eat well and exercise.
According to research cited by Science Daily, worry can become a health hazard as well, however:
A new research study, led by a Case Western Reserve University faculty member in psychology, also shows that worrying can be so intrusive and obsessive that it interferes in the person’s life and endangers the health of social relationships. (Science Daily)
If you feel that you are someone that worries so much that your body actually believes it’s happening and reacts as such (i.e. panic attacks), there is a psychological way to fight it that is short, sweet, and to the point.
Here’s what to do….in two parts
Remember a situation that at one point worried you, only picture it thirty minutes after it went relatively well. In other words, you are reflecting on a mental image of how your prior worries did NOT actually happen.
For example, if you were worried about your first day at work, you’d wouldn’t remember the image of yourself stressing out at the beginning of the day, but instead picture yourself at the end of that day, after the stress was over and things turned OK.
You just got home and kicked your shoes off…you’re tired but satisfied with how the day went, and relieved that your worries didn’t pan out. Remember that. Really reflect and remember. Let it sink in.
For future worries, rather than spend your time worrying about the potentially bad things that could theoretically happen during your next situation, go further into the future and picture yourself after the relevant event is over and you have had reasonable success.
It’s all just imagination, right? So, why not imagine the satisfaction and relief you’ll experience after the day is done?
This above is an NLP technique. These kinds of personal development techniques are often helpful. In fact, all else being equal, such methods are very effective. But there’s a problem with technical interventions like these.
We can sum up the issue in two words: psychological attachment.
Psychological attachment to dysfunctional states occurs when, deep down, we cling to negative feelings, even when we consciously wish we could let go. On another level, we hold on. Perhaps this particular flavor of negativity is all we know….all we’ve ever known.
Most of us would choose a familiar misery over a foreign happiness. Holding onto negative states chronically (in spite of applied techniques to heal) may involve this principle. When an emotional pain is so familiar, it still hurts, but it may actually feel safer than being free from pain. So, we cling. This is where psychological attachments have so much power over us.
A proposed solution to psychological attachments involves high levels of awareness and a gentle form of self-confrontation. Watch this free video to learn more.