On some level, we all care about what people think about us, and some people really struggle with self-acceptance and other emotional issues because of it.
“How positively you see others is linked to how happy, kind-hearted and emotionally stable you are, according to new research. In contrast, negative perceptions of others are linked to higher levels of narcissism and antisocial behavior,” says an article titled, What you say about others says a lot about you, research shows published by Science Daily.
The article continues :
This research suggests that when you ask someone to rate the personality of a particular coworker or acquaintance, you may learn as much about the rater providing the personality description as the person they are describing. The level of negativity the rater uses in describing the other person may indeed indicate that the other person has negative characteristics, but may also be a tip off that the rater is unhappy, disagreeable, neurotic — or has other negative personality traits.
Can you reduce your own fear of being judged by reducing how often you judge other people?
Pay attention to your passing thoughts. When you find yourself passing judgment, stop. Is this heading in the right direction? Research seems to support this idea.
For some people this will be harder than for others. Many people feel that they don’t have very much control over their inner dialogue. For them, there are quick and easy NLP techniques.
You can also practice mindful meditation if you feel compelled to make judgments.
What you say about others says a lot about you, research shows — ScienceDaily. (n.d.). Retrieved from https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2010/08/100802165441.htm