But research is now suggesting that those who are committed, and mean to keep their relationship in good standing have a subconscious technique for resisting attractive members of the opposite sex.
Studies show that when someone is in a loving, long-term relationship, and they see someone who is genuinely attractive, their mind automatically downplays the person’s looks and points out potentially unattractive aspects of them.
This seems to be a defensive mechanism used by the subconscious mind as a way to deter them from thinking about the parts of that person that they may think is attractive.
This protects the current relationship from suffering due to wandering eyes and thoughts.
A study, published by Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, took a look at 131 couples, and showed them pictures of people who were either deemed single or in a relationship. If the person in the picture was single, the person being shown the card would immediately point out negative aspects of their appearance.
According to an article titled “Happy Couples Automatically Use Mind Trick to Stay Faithful” published by PsyBlog, “Dr Shana Cole, the study’s first author, said, “Mis-perceiving attractive people who represent threats to the relationship as less attractive may help people resist the inclination to pursue them. This is especially important since finding someone physically attractive is a primary reason why people choose to date or romantically pursue someone.”
So if you’re in a loving, healthy, and committed relationship, you can rest easy knowing that your significant other’s subconscious is protecting it, and chances are they don’t even realize they’re doing it!