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12 Self-Respecting, Supportive Things to Say to Yourself Today

Our best friend and our worst enemy reside within us. Unfortunately, most of us access the latter far more often than the former.  ―Maddy Malhotra

Love yourselfI’m often amazed at how easy it is to be unhappy.

Discontent, resentment and feelings of victimization don’t seem to require any special effort or circumstance. All you need to do is passively allow them into your life.

Most of the time we get into these unfortunate states on autopilot, as if a part of us were constantly ready to be upset, looking for any excuse to erupt.

Why is this the case?

Deep self-sabotage programming. A biological hard wiring that naturally scans for problems and danger. Social conditioning. There may be many causes, but a huge part of the solution is to consciously intervene with believable, positive, self-respectful thoughts.

This is why I really appreciated Lori Deschene’s article, 25 Loving, Supportive Things to Tell Yourself Today.

In the article, Lori also offers the following challenge: Identify one supportive thing you wish you’d heard more while growing up. Every time you pass a mirror today, look at yourself and say this. You should read this entire article.

Anyway, I was inspired by Lori to create my own list of positive things to tell myself when I look in the mirror.

Here they are:

1. Your every whim may not be satisfied today, but you already have everything you need to be happy, fulfilled and successful.

2. You’re heart is good. All you need to do is stay open – and you can!

3. So you’ve failed in that one area of your life. Now, think of all the things you’ve accomplished that you once only dreamed of. See what I mean? You can accomplish more than you give yourself credit for…

4. There are people who care about you more than you know. Some of them may not show it as much as you’d like, but they do love you. And you can inspire them to show it more.

5. You always do your best. And that is enough.

6. Life is difficult, yes, but you are up to it. I know you are…

7. It’s ok to be yourself. Not everyone will appreciate you, but so many people will. And the rest won’t even get you down.

8. I see the good in you. Never forget that.

9. The world is a better place because you’re in it.

10. I don’t know everything, but I do know this: You’re OK and you always will be. Now, embrace your OKness and make the most of it.

11. You deserve everything you have to be grateful for. And it’s  long list…

12. You have the power to make the best choices possible, starting right now.

Regardless of which positive thing you tell yourself, it’s vital that you send yourself positive messages consistently. You may have years of negative programming to overcome, as so many of us have. That’s OK. It really is. You didn’t choose that programming. You do have the power to work at overcoming it, little by little, day by day.

12 Self-Respecting, Supportive Things to Say to Yourself Today

Mike Bundrant

Mike Bundrant is the author of Your Achilles Eel: Discover and Overcome the Hidden Cause of Negative Emotions, Bad Decisions and Self-Sabotage and co-founder at The iNLP Center which offers online certification in Neuro-Linguistic Programming and life coaching.

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Bundrant, M. (2016). 12 Self-Respecting, Supportive Things to Say to Yourself Today. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 22, 2020, from


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