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What Saying NO Really Means

Maybe it is all the well-placed NO answers that makes all the great YESES possible.

If you’re like me, there are some things in life that you do well. And then there are all the other things that you get involved with that don’t serve much of a purpose when it comes down to it.

This is where saying NO comes in.

noImagine saying (when you need to):

No, I can’t volunteer.

No, I can’t go.

No, I can’t help you right now.

No, I’m not interested.

No, I can’t talk right now.

If I don’t say no, I can’t devote myself to the things I really need to say YES to.

Here’s why: I am a person with limitations, like everyone. I can only get so much done. I want to do the  few things I CAN do really well. I want to be free to put in my best effort where I want to be – and where I can make the biggest difference. When I say YES to more than I can do well, I can’t give anything my best effort.

In other words, saying NO really means saying YES to what I am meant to do.

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What Saying NO Really Means

Mike Bundrant

Mike Bundrant is the author of Your Achilles Eel: Discover and Overcome the Hidden Cause of Negative Emotions, Bad Decisions and Self-Sabotage and co-founder at The iNLP Center which offers online certification in Neuro-Linguistic Programming and life coaching.

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Bundrant, M. (2014). What Saying NO Really Means. Psych Central. Retrieved on August 15, 2020, from


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