Often, we get the exact opposite of what we want and we unwittingly do it to ourselves.
It reminds me of that Seinfeld episode when George realizes that if he does the opposite of what his natural instinct tells him to do, he becomes successful.
In real life, getting the opposite isn’t always funny. It can be frustrating and painful.
Worse, there seems to be a Great Glitch in the mind – born of many factors – that tricks us into producing these painful results. I wrote an article this phenomenon called Seven Ways the Mind Tricks you into Getting the Opposite of What you Want.
It is an important issue to learn about. Once you understand how this somewhat twisted element of the mind works, you can reverse it. Learning to recognize the twist – the Great Glitch – is key.
Here are some signs:
You do things that harm yourself – addictions and all manner of self-abuse.
You criticize yourself for no rational reason.
You expect that you will fail.
You demand perfection of yourself.
When you begin to have success, you lose interest.
When relationships become smooth, you pick a fight.
And so on…
The idea here is that self-sabotage often rules the day. Self-sabotage is perhaps the most common and universal human ill!
Lifestyle diseases, relationship troubles, careers in shambles, alcoholism and drug abuse…and this list goes on. Self-sabotage is a silent killer.
Amazingly, we protect our self-sabotaging ways by hiding the truth from ourselves. When someone calls us on our self-indulgent behavior, we get defensive and resist change. We blame others. Anything to avoid the truth, which is that we have some sort of strange yet incredibly compelling addiction to negative results.
So, check out the Seven Ways your Mind Tricks you, and take a quantum leap forward in your self-understanding. It’s a critical step for all of us!