Forbade From Launching: The Long-term Effects of Being Denied Adulthood (Pt 1 and 2)

Parents of disabled children all express the same concern, hope, fond wish: "I hope, someday, my child can be independent with a home, a family and a life of their own."

On the flip side of the coin are parents who forbid their adult children from growing up and launching as adults in their own right to enjoy a home, a family and a life of their own. Deeply ashamed adult children who may be mis-classified as a "Failure to Launch"...a "Deadbeat"...a "Basement Dweller"...when they're actually forbidden from launching.

I know. I was there. And it hurt me more than three decades of cult abuse and narcissistic abuse...put together!


Narcissists’ Fluid Approach to “Truth”

"This opera," said Wagnerian soprana Debra Voigt, "requires the audience to suspend belief." I'd never really given much thought to the phrase "suspend belief" before. Ms. Voigt meant that, if you want to enjoy Mozart's Così Fan Tutte, you must accept what Mozart is telling you, even though the truth and evidence of your own eyes and ears would make any normal person say, "Um, excuse me, how can she not know that he's her fiancé in a really cheesy disguise."

Suspend Belief. Doesn't that perfectly describe people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder relate to truth!?!


9 Quirky Tips for Caregivers

Some people, like me, are attracted to those who need a little extra help through life. Some people have the perfect life and in a heartbeat, it all goes terribly wrong. Some people live healthy, long lives and then nurse their spouse through a painful final illness that drags on and on.

Whatever the case, at some point or another, you'll probably find yourself being a caregiver. It kinda crept up on me until one day I got wise to my sweet self and realized that I wasn't just a wife anymore. I was a caregiver too.

Here's nine quirky tips for caregivers I've discovered over the past few years. They're presented as tips for wives who care for their husbands because that's my situation, but feel free to adapt them to your gender/roles/situation.


Your Best Thoughts about Narcissism

The readers of Narcissism Meets Normalcy are wonderful about sharing their experiences and viewpoints. There's been a positive "rash" of great comments lately and I wanted to be sure you all saw some of the most entertaining comments recently posted on Narcissism Meets Normalcy. Click here to read Part 1. 


Your Best Comments About Narcissism

The readers of Narcissism Meets Normalcy are the best and your comments often leave me thinking, "He summed up in one elegant paragraph what it took me 1,000 words to convey."

Often the best comments are posted weeks or even years after my article was originally you probably miss out on seeing them. Lately, we've been in a particularly rich comment season. So here is the best of the best of what you recently said.


Here’s Why We Talk About Narcissism. Spoiler Alert: It’s NOT A Pity Party.

Two weeks ago, a well-meaning friend posted a comment on my Facebook that was so thought provoking, I've been quietly cogitating on it ever since. She said:
Lorena, you have had it very rough in your life to say the very least. I am so very sorry you have had to live through this hell.

Since you now have a wonderful life and husband, one would ask, don't you want to move forward ? There seems to be so much you go back to, so much unsolved in these postings. Your deserve the happiness you know is there for you. Why not shut the door on the unhappiness and leave it behind. Be free and enjoy your new found life. Note: Not in any way trying to be disrespectful to your thoughts or views just looking at it with a different set of eye's.