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  • March 30, 2017 at 5:45 am

    Glad I found your writings on narcissism.I am just now realizing that my aunt cast both the roles of golden child and scapegoat onto me. If I expressed any thought or idea that “diminished” her or threatened her distorted reality, I was quickly put in my place. Her way or the highway. I was always on high alert around her. She was a master of triangulation with sideways talk. Oh the insults, back handed compliments, controlling behaviors…the manipulation was unreal. It damaged me in ways I am just discovering. Gifts often had strings attached. She’d use my own good conscience against me because hers was not there. I am coming to realize that the only way to deal with narcissism is to allow them their distorted reality and opinion of me and not try to prove myself. I went no contact until I had a better sense of identity and boundaries. Recovery will be my focus now. She passed away last year.

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