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  • January 20, 2020 at 12:50 pm

    I’m curious, if you had had a sibling, who was of course not the “darling” one where would they have figured into all of this for you, in my family, my sister, who has grown up exactly like our NPD mother, even raising another just like herself, was the “princess”, and I was the “toad”; almost literally she got designer clothes, a fully paid university education, including an apartment, and I got whatever was on clearance, and a couple of semesters at community college, my other babysat her 3 kids so she could work, but not mine o I had to pay nearly $1.00/month for daycare (they were 1 and 3) she & her husband lived in my deceased great aunt’s house for free, while I paid $1,250 by myself in my deceased grandfather’s house (plus the daycare of course) with no child support (I was lucky enough to be able to talk my way into a tech job to afford all this), my sister and I haven’t spoken in years, which is fine with me I have very good friends I consider my true sisters, and I much prefer my chosen family to the one I was born into, though this all still hurts a lot!

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