4 thoughts on “What’s Fun For You? What Makes You Happy?

  • June 25, 2019 at 8:06 am

    Wonderful post. I like your choices of things that make you happy.

    Getting to know ourselves is definitely one of the biggest rewards of the whole journey. I think that I had partially been drawn to narcissistic people because I had never developed that list of things that I enjoy. I had not been exposed to much as a child beyond “I Love Lucy” and the Jerry Springer reality show of my life so there was little opportunity for experimentation. But many of the narcissistic people that I knew definitely had invested more in their own personal discovery so I became exposed to new experiences through them. And definitely, all the free and/or moderately priced content on the internet has been an extraordinary and life changing blessing .

    Hey….I just have one question? Who is that gorgeous furry creature featured in the picture?
    Now that cute kitty definitely looks like a wonderful source of happy 🙂

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  • June 25, 2019 at 10:12 am

    I went no contact 20 years ago and am finally at the point where my narcissist no longer lives in my head. I accomplished this last winter when I decided not to bring her into 2019 with me. I wrote her a letter, because, as you know, a heart-to-heart is impossible. In my letter, I explained that I had to get some things off my chest in order to put my pain to rest. I kept things general but was very clear about what she took from me, what she lacked as a parent, how misunderstood I felt, what I see my siblings have grown to be and what they are lacking in their life that prevents them from living joyfully. I explained how each of my siblings’ issues was her fault and why I felt sorry for her. I sent it by registered mail to her and my step-sister to ensure that my effort did not fall on deaf ears. I felt a positive impact almost immediately.
    I did not know anything about narcissism until I was 40. I happened to read an article that listed the character traits of a narcissist. I could not believe it! She checked every box. Soon after, I went on an in-depth self-healing process that continued for 12 years. I examined everything in my life that I had always felt was my fault but was tortured with never understanding why. I realized that my two divorces were brought on by choosing the wrong mate to begin with. I said, “my picker is broke”. All of my failures and lack of accomplishments were due to my low self-esteem and the lack of encouragement and direction that plagued my upbringing. I began painting, writing poetry (5 were published and given the editor’s choice award). I wrote a book and created a comic strip. I even became a partner in 6 restaurants and opened a restaurant of my own. I found that what makes me happy is filling a need whenever I saw the necessity. If I didn’t know anything on the subject, I learned. I realized what a great problem solver I am.
    I will be celebrating my 62nd birthday soon. I am at a place in my life now that allows me to feel confident because I know who I am, what I am capable of and most of all how amazingly talented I truly am. I’m not afraid to boast here. I know you understand that someone has to say the things I never heard from my parents. A few days ago, a friend told me that I should teach positivity. He’s right. I just have to get over my fear of speaking in front of large crowds.
    I was asked what I would offer as advice to a group of young people. My response was to always remember what made your nine-year-old self happy. It was a time when you saw all the possibilities available to you and before anyone discouraged you. Try to find a job that is one of the things that brought you joy. Surround yourself with people that celebrate you, and stay away from those that merely tolerate you. I believe everyone in the world is the best in the world at something. It is our duty to figure out what that is and share it with the world.

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  • June 26, 2019 at 2:13 pm

    This is great. I’ve always been confused when posed with the question what makes you happy and I’m not sure I even know. This is great way to help anyone figure it out. I’ve always been presented a world palate on so many levels and when confronted with my preference I have in many cases gone with the flow or my instinct but had I made this list I think I would have found more comfort and less anguish in my life.

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  • July 14, 2019 at 11:35 pm

    Lenora, you mention hot air balloon raisings are something you like.

    Put a visit to Albuquerque, New Mexico in an October on your bucket list. The International Balloon Fiesta is something to behold. The Mass Ascension in the mornings would probably have you beaming and the Evening Glow (the balloons are tethered and the flames are going at dusk, lighting the balloons) is another wonderful sight. Walking among them on the field is almost like a fairy tale. 🙂

    Here’s a link to them. https://balloonfiesta.com/

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