5 thoughts on “Narcissistic Granny: It’s a Multi-Generational “Thang” (Pt. 1 of 3)

  • February 17, 2016 at 3:45 pm

    It’s like there is a manual out there on how to form a crappy narcissistic family. The exact same dynamics I experience every day, and when I confronted my mother for talking behind my back her answer was that all mother’s do that! Ha to the square..

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    • March 4, 2016 at 11:50 pm

      Hi Elli,

      I’m always surprised at how consistent and similar narcissists are. They’re all alike!

      ~ Lenora Thompson

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  • December 6, 2016 at 10:59 am

    Your family history mirrors mine. I’m a 62 year old female scapegoat of my profoundly narcissistic 90 year old father. He was diagnosed with full blown NPD and histrionic personality disorder about 10 years ago. I went no contact with him 2 years ago but still live next door to him.

    My father’s father clearly was a flaming narc. He was a physician who slept with his patients, fathered at least 2 illegitimate children (ones we know about), and whose wife (my grandmother) apparently committed suicide by drowning in approximately 1940 when my father was 14 years old and his sister was 18. My grandmother’s body was never recovered.

    Grandfather, no longer burdened with a wife, shipped my father off to a prestigious military boarding school and my aunt to a prestigious college, then rejoined the military and slutted his way around Europe, sleeping with anything in a skirt, including a married German woman in Frankfort with 2 small starving German children and whose husband was a POW of the Allies at the time. He was a high-ranking Army medical officer with food and medicine at a time when Germany was devastated by the war. The German woman did what she had to do to take care of her children.

    My father’s nephew (my first cousin)was diagnosed with NPD in his late teens and spent over a year in a psychiatric hospital following one of his narcissistic breaks with reality. He’s now about 65 years old and lives off church donations and charity by adopting African children. I do not believe for a minute that his concern for poor African children is genuine; it’s just a ruse to get money and attention. He once told me that while he was hospitalized for his break with reality, that he figured out that they would never release him unless he told them what they wanted to hear. So, he told them what they wanted to hear and was discharged after over a year.

    My younger sister, now about 50 years old, has had psychiatric issues since her teen years. She, like our grandfather, was a total slut – slept with her entire high school football team, stalked attractive men to sleep with them, and bragged to everyone about it. If she isn’t NPD, she sure as heck is my father’s flying monkey and greatly enjoys gas-lighting me and triangulation communications with our father. I’ve cut her out of my life, too.

    I could write a book about these sick people but I hate to dwell on the pain they have caused me. I feel I’m in recovery from a life of scapegoating (father told his psychiatrist in my presence that I made our family dysfunctional when I was 10 years old; the shrink nearly laughed out loud). Father has not seen the psychiatrist since, of course.

    I don’t know if narcissism and other attendant personality disorders are nature or nurture; I just know my family is full of them. I can spot a narc a mile away and want NO CONTACT with them.

    Thank you so much for your website. It helps us victims of these mentally ill, abusive excuses for human beings to share our stories and to know we are not alone.

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    • April 8, 2017 at 9:30 pm

      It’s very sad how the selfishness of our ancestors can sometimes screw us up. Anybody who says that Man is a reasoning animal is partly right, for Man is definintely an animal. My father (I don’t even like to call him this) is a narcissist who abused my mother and fooled around on her while she was pregnant. The old bastard is almost 75 now but I have nothing to do with him. He has a son who is Schizophrenic but he won’t face the fact. His oldest son is also mentally unstable and is in denial about his dad, always trying to have a “normal” relationship with him but always gets let down or disparaged.
      Narcissists are toxic and must be avoided, even if they are a parent.

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  • April 8, 2017 at 9:21 pm

    My mother’s mother is definitely a narcissist of the malignant kind. Apparently her father was also a narcissist and it must have affected her as well. My grandmother married a nice man and then ended up turning him into a servant and martyr to her needs. She was probably manic depressive (but never properly treated)starting in the 1960s. She physically abused her husband and children, and when she got too old to be physically violent, she often made snide comments about her family and husband after getting drunk on her martinis every night. Grandmother is now 89 years old and has been suffering from dementia for a decade. The old queen of hearts is rich and is in a nursing home that costs over $6000 a month. Her youngest daughter is rich, religious and is grandma’s legal guardian. I hate my grandmother for the way she mistreated my grandfather and wish her dead. I also hate my aunt for being so sanctimonious about caring for the old tyrant who abused her worst of all.

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