2 thoughts on “The Narcissist of Downton Abbey

  • April 16, 2019 at 7:49 am

    That multi faceted nature is what makes it difficult to go no contact for some (not me anymore). It is scary to see this trait in very young children. A 7 year old my daughter likes to play with is like that – sweet charming and fun one day and unbelievably cruel another. I witnessed the cruelty first hand and my daughter was shocked and I was triggered. By a 7 year old! Yet still my daughter clings to the hope she will be charming and fun whenever she sees her.

  • May 9, 2019 at 12:31 pm

    I have wondered whether Mary has narcissistic traits so this made interesting reading. One doubt I have though- The Crawley parents are very loving and kind. Doesn’t NPD usually come from attachment issues or complex trauma of some kind? I thought NPD was like BPD with a different face on it (many BPD sufferers seem to be narcissists as well) and as someone who has been in and out of treatment for BPD myself over many years, I was told that all cluster B personality disorders overlap and they are usually caused by abuse, abandonment or distant parenting of some kind? I know with BPD teh classic thing is to have had one or both parents abandon or (as in my case) abuse from one parent and being adored, but not protected and put on a pedestal by the other. Despised by one, hated by the other. So i had assumed NPD had the same kind of root, but maybe not?


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