3 thoughts on “Narcissists and Housework: A Weapon for Self-Congratulation at your Expense

  • November 25, 2018 at 3:49 pm

    My mum won’t let her mother-in-law wash-up for her because “she doesn’t have the water hot enough”. She says this with the most indignant of looks!

  • January 11, 2019 at 6:01 am

    My children used to see me scream round the house at warp speed and clean and then innocently ask who was coming over! I hated that they picked it so quickly at such a young age.

    But then I was recruited by my NM to do the cooking and cleaning for her while she and my father worked. So I learned that these two activities meant you would be marked on your performance. And you would never get it right.

  • January 27, 2019 at 9:24 am

    This was an interesting read, though it’s not my experience with the main narcissist in my life.

    I share a home with a female narcissistic relative and can’t afford to move out. This narcissist absolutely refuses to do housework or clean up after herself. She lives in unimaginable squalor and I can’t keep up with the piles of dishes, dirty laundry, and pet feces she leaves every day. Her room smells like stinky laundry and vomit and it spills into the rest of the house. She uses up clean dishes and utensils faster than I can wash them and has rages that leaves food and trash strewn all over the floor, walls, and cabinets.

    She is so afflicted with entitlement that she has accused me of being selfish for keeping my room clean and washing my own clothes. She has frequent tantrums about the state of the house but won’t life a finger to help clean it. Why didn’t I get the type of narcissist that cleans?


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