3 thoughts on “Considering Narcissism from the Perspective of Death

  • October 23, 2018 at 8:41 am

    Very affirming post Lenora.

    I lived my entire life in a state of anguish and finally went no contact with my elderly parents a few years ago. If I had not begun the process of examining my life a decade prior to my final break with them, it’s not at all hyperbolic for me to cite that the relationship would have claimed my life. I was very ill and in and out of surgery for several years prior to my exit and my parents were rage-fully demanding that I continue to respond to their every whim. 24 hours recovery out of the hospital with a catheter was just about all they could stand before the demands resumed. I watched what happens over a lifetime of moral deviance and how it descends into utter insanity. Just being yoked with them in the relationship was causing spiritual and physical paralysis and very real health deterioration all throughout my life. I firmly believe they took great joy in my suffering and would have been quite pleased with themselves if they had been successful at covertly causing my death..

    Breaking from a trauma bonded relationship with my parents has been the single most liberating and empowering experience of my life thanks to the Lord Jesus who saved me. I’m 54 years old and I’ve been free for about two years.

    C.S. Lewis said that “The ruthless, sleepless, unsmiling concentration upon self is the mark of hell”. And when we are involved with people who are in that self imposed hell ….they want nothing more than to take us hostage. Thats why this subject simply cannot be understood deeply until one has actually lived through it. Nobody really will ever fully understand this type of evil until they have lived through it’s slow and subtle grooming of devouring ,

    i enjoyed reading your post. Thanks for the great article:-)

    • October 23, 2018 at 10:04 am

      Thank you for your wonderful comment. Very affirming and validating. I’m sorry you’ve suffered so much. Kudos on going NC. I hope your health has improved!!! It’s great to meet another reader of C. S. Lewis. That quote was great…was it from Screwtape? I may play off that quote for an upcoming article. Thanks and have a wonderful, narcissist-free, rest-of-your-life!

      ~ Lenora

  • October 25, 2018 at 1:30 pm

    Then there’s my greedy narcissistic brother who kicks everybody out of his life whenever he is toooo self-absorbed to deal with his disagreements with us, then some time later is back as if nothing happened. He went “no contact” with me several years ago. I was HAPPY to. I hadda good laugh when of course sometime later he thought all he had to do was crook his finger at me and promise to be a better brother. (He obviously had heard a sermon and merely wanted to relieve his feelings of guilt.) I never bothered to answer the email. I’m sure he washed his hands of that “guilt”.


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