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Cracking Our Post-Abuse Prickly Exterior Shell

How many times did your narcissist insist that you be “sweet”? Accuse you of not being “sweet”? Remind you to be “sweet”? Shame you for forgetting to be “sweet”? It seemed that the end-all-be-all goal for us (especially we women) was to be sweet — because narcissists can walk all over sweet people with nary a repercussion.

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  • October 12, 2018 at 12:45 pm

    I didn’t hear ” be sweet” but my mother had other remarks that created the same effect. ” Check your attitude”, ” Who do you think you are? You’re nothin!”, ” You’ve got some real DELUSIONS of grandeur there, Missy- time to come down off your high horse”. I thought that in order for me to be accepted anywhere I had to please the greatest number of people. I was obviously never able to do anything close. Eventually I just stopped caring. Once it penetrated the cranial cells that my mother was abusive, I decided that I would please myself first and leave it at that. It is working pretty well for me so far………


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