5 thoughts on “Narcissism Meets Helicopter Parenting

  • February 11, 2016 at 3:11 am

    That’s so uncanny. I’ve started writing my personal story and the title of the first part is The makings of a narcissistic family.

    I believe that even when you have not seen normalcy and you were constantly victimized and scapegoated that’s no excuse. The things that I’ve been told I wouldn’t even dream telling to my own child. This was the awakening point for me. Why do the people that are supposed to love me hurt me so much, ’cause I love my daughter and I don’t want to hurt her. It’s really as simple as that sometimes, no matter how well we wore the mask of calmness, the pain was oozing out and they could see it. And yet they continued…

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    • March 4, 2016 at 11:53 pm

      Your comment exactly described my life too, Eli. Let’s heal together!

      ~ L

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  • February 13, 2016 at 3:39 pm

    Wow.
    Thank you so much for sharing. This is SO helpful, both personally and as a parent. You’ve switched a light on for me.
    Thank you.

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    • March 4, 2016 at 11:51 pm

      Thank you, Robyn. So glad my article was helpful to you!

      ~ L

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  • June 18, 2016 at 12:38 pm

    Paralysis. When I was planning my wedding, I was asked by the hairdresser how I wanted my hair. I froze. What should I Say? My parents had made it clear that my wedding would be their way. I wanted both of my parents to give me away, less patriarchal. My father coached my mother to tell me that it was not a good idea. I wanted to have a wedding at a Chinese garden. Nope. My parents picked the venue, my mother picked the bridesmaid gowns, I could just shut up.
    Years of being abused when I expressed my personality resulted in my stuffing down my feelings. I gained fifteen pounds before my wedding. My father acted bored and disgusted with me during the traditional father daughter dance. My sisters despised me for not being grateful enough to my parents. My mom insisted on inviting her work friends -people I did not know to the reception. It was a nightmare.

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