Eight years ago, a coworker said something I’ll never forget. “You’re just a Project to your parents,” he told me. “You’re not a Person.”
At the time, I denied his statement six ways from Sunday. But his words stuck with me. Haunted me.
Yesterday, I took a long, long view of my familyÂ â€” the 10,000-foot view. I did this by very quickly perusing the 300 entries on my Timeline of Abuse spreadsheet. Reading it so quickly, between putting cookies in and taking them out of the oven, I suddenly was able to see the Forest and not the trees. Over 300 instances of abuse, insults and downright weirdness culminated in the conviction that he was right!
Narcissistic parents are really weird (and weird is a “nice” word; abusive is more accurate) because, to them, their kids are just Projects. Not People.
Narcissists treat their children as though they built them out of Legos. And you can do anything to a Lego Project.