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The Exhaustion of Living with a Narcissist (and craving peace afterwards)

You’re not a thrill seeker, are you? Not an adrenalin junkie? You don’t skydive, bungee jump or even enjoy zoomy rides at the State Fair, do you? Of course not! Who would after years, decades, a lifetime of the adrenalin-sodden life of living with a narcissist!?! So, wherever you are now, huddled under a quilt, curled up in an overstuffed chair or soaking in a hot bath, this article is for you.

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The Exhaustion of Living with a Narcissist (and craving peace afterwards)

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  1. My goodness you’re so right. The peace is unbelievable.

  2. I was so enmeshed with my narc that when he abandoned me, I rebelled at the idea things would get better. My mom told me I’d feel so relieved not to walk on eggshells or be treated like a servant. Well, slowly but surely, I’m discovering it’s true.

    I can go to sleep without fear he’ll hold my slumber hostage; I learned narcs will do that. He’d keep me awake and upset, all the while berating me for upsetting him. The next morning, he’d either continue his emotional battering of me, or worse, he’d breeze through as though it were all a trifle while still getting in a few digs. I’d still be expected to perform–go to work, cook, pay bills, run errands, and clean. If I indicated I was tired or dared to bring it up, the torture began again. And I believed I deserved it because he said I did!!! I voud never return to that!

  3. Sorry, I covfefed. I meant “could,” but I also “vowed” to never return to that in Scarlett O’Hara fashion.

  4. For the first time in my life (60 years) I no longer have to be in “survival” mode. I’m paying for having Narcissistic parents, Narcissistic Ex husbands (2) and Narcissistic bosses (several) with my health (Diabetes 2). Where I used to live and function with extreme stress 24/7 I no longer can handle even the smallest amount of it. I don’t have any friends or social life cause I learned early on not to trust anyone. BUT my muscles are slowly relaxing and I’m less fearful. I’ve gone NC with the only Narcissist still alive (my Mom) though she haunts me every night in my Night Terrors.
    People who haven’t lived what we have CAN’T BEGIN to relate to or understand our world.


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