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Narcissistic Grandma, Wounded Daughter, Alienated Grandchildren

We’ve all heard of Mama’s Boys: men “wedded” to their domineering  and often narcissistic mother who runs their life and ruins their life. But what’s the female version of that? What is she called? A “Mama’s Girl”?

No, she’s called a devoted daughter. A loving daughter. A caring, generous, wonderful daughter. But behind the frozen smarmy smile is a wounded daughter who’s life has been slowly and genteelly ruined by her own mother.  And what of her children? How does a woman’s devotion to her narcissistic mother affect the children she is supposed to be mothering?

Let’s explore this dynamic together.

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Narcissistic Grandma, Wounded Daughter, Alienated Grandchildren

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  1. This is a great piece of writing. Thank you for sharing it. A lot of it rings true for me, related to my family and situations I notice in other families. Interesting stuff. Especially when you’ve lived it! All the best. Lisa

  2. My Narcissist mom, who’s had 2 strokes,lives with us. Honestly, another stroke wouldn’t break my heart. Thanks for your honesty.

  3. There’s other types of dysfunctional dynamics in a family. Adopted daughter, man both narssistic. Her being a product of Meth mother and is adhd,and a dating dad,stepmother is sister to birth father. That is my reality.

  4. I can’t believe how close to home this article hit for me. I was married to “Mater Secondus” and our daughter is “The Kid”. She will be 15 next month and has been alienated from me since I had “the nerve” to divorce “Mater Secondus” (now called “ex-wifus maximus”)10 years ago. I realized a year or two before our divorce that “ex-wifus maximus” was/is a malignant narcissist, but I had no idea how relentless and insidious narcissism can be. Thank you for writing these articles and telling the truth about the evil that is narcissism.

  5. Wow! Your article about daughters of narcissistic Mothers was like reading my own story. Also, ending my 18 year marriage to a complete narcissistic man has left me with a an emotional hangover at times. My Mother passed away, as dramatically as she lived. I am left with a feeling of relief after 94 years of her “dying” for the last 25 years. Thank you for shedding light on this subject. My healing continues and I’m glad I learned of narcs 8 years ago so my daughters can also learn and see how I have changed. Perhaps through seeing me grow boundaries and self-esteem, they too, can end the cycle of pleasing narcissistic people in their lives.
    Blessings to you!

  6. Excellent article. I had rather than Queen Bee mother a “His Highness” narcissistic father, the son of a Queen Bee grandmother. You are correct, kick them out of your life, they will poison your life, directly and indirectly.

  7. Great article and good point at the end.

    Sounds all too familiar.

  8. Wow, this is all too real for me. Including the part about reading my writing, although that happened very young for me when my mother read my childhood diary. Thanks for writing this. I went no contact with the whole circus last year and things like this make me feel so much more confident about my decision.


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