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Narcissists on Social Media

I betcha’ think this article is about selfies and the Kardashians. Ha, ha. Oh, I’ll get to them! Today’s article is about the other narcissists on social media: our mother, father, sister, brother, niece, nephew, friend, boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse, ex-spouse and yes, even our children.

It’s All About the Memes

Memes are the friend of the perpetual victim the narcissist pretends to be. Oh, you know they are not the victim, but actually the perpetrator of untold pain.

I know they make everyone miserable.

But, heavenly days! Their Facebook Timeline is riddled with all kinds of lovely, hopeful, forgiving, religious memes dripping with sentimentality. As Richard Burton put it in The Longest Day, “…sob stuff about England, home and beauty.”

No Security Settings

They’ve got the security on their Facebook timeline wide open in the hopes all their memes will hit home should you visit their profile. Ye olde false guilt again.

And you do visit their profile, don’t you? I know you do it. You know you do it. Oh, I don’t blame you! Forewarned is forearmed, as they say. It helps to know what’s going on so you don’t get blind-sided.

Flipping Truth Upside-Down-and-Backwards

When they aren’t posting memes about family, forgiveness and mother-love, they’re posting out-and-out lies. Their twisted version of reality. If they stole item XY from you, they’ll post a paragraph rejoicing that the XY item you stole from them has been returned…and cyber-forgiving you. Of course, it’s all bullshit!

Or they’ll be posting some sob story about how you alienated their son or daughter from them. But they forgive you. Sometime, perhaps in the Afterworld, justice will be done. You’ll get your just reward. They only hope you see the error of your ways and repent before it’s too late. Oh, and hand over the money “you” cheated “them” out of…all of it.

Sound familiar?

The Throbbing Nerve

In my last article, I referred to “the raw nerve the narcissist used to play on like a fiddle.” Yeah, you know what I mean!

An acquaintance-by-marriage was the first person to strum a dirge on my, for lack of a better term, “narc nerve.” They played on it like a harp, then threw acid on it. Once you’ve developed your raw “narc nerve,” it never loses its sensitivity. It’s a hunch. An instinct. A gut feeling.

Cherish it.


Once your “narc nerve” is developed, any narcissist will trigger it. Last weekend, a Facebook friend sent me screenshots of her mother-in-law‘s texts. And that ol’ narc nerve just started to twang! It wasn’t anything I could put my finger on. If I didn’t know better, I’d actually believe the MIL was the injured party, it it wasn’t for that throbbing of that ol’ “narc nerve.”

This nerve is of inestimable value, especially when narcissists go by pseudonyms and nom de plumes on social media to try to trick you into violating No Contact. Regardless of how they try to disguise their messages, your narc nerve will thrum.

As Addison DeWitt said in All About Eve, “That instinct is worth millions, you can’t buy it, cherish it, Eve. When that alarm goes off, go to your battle stations…”

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Narcissists on Social Media

Lenora Thompson

For five years, "Narcissism Meets Normalcy" has followed the real-life, ongoing story of freelance writer, Lenora Thompson, and her readers’ healing journey from narcissistic abuse to healing, peace and happiness. In August 2020, Lenora launched a new blog, "Beyond Narcissism…And Getting Happier All the Time" as she and her readers explore the new world of peace and happiness. "Beyond Narcs…Get Happy" is 100% reader supported! To learn more about Lenora, her husband Michael’s heroic fight against Pulmonary Alveolar Proteinosis and to subscribe to her other writings, please visit Thank you!

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Thompson, L. (2016). Narcissists on Social Media. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 24, 2020, from


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