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Privacy? Fugetaboutit!

Narcissists are incredibly predictable. They come in vanilla (neglecting) and chocolate (engulfing), but the actions actions of both varieties can still be anticipated. That's why children of narcissists have shockingly similar experiences growing up. Take lack of privacy, for example!

Yesterday, I wrote an article...
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Pain, Boundaries and the Narcissist

"Mommy," I sobbed. "Tell Daddy to stop hurting me when we play!" Smiling she responded, "Now, Honey, you need to tell him yourself." Thinking of his blackout rages, I wept, "But I can't! He'll get mad at me! Please, Mommy!?" I was five years old. It would be another thirty years before I realized that normal fathers don't hurt their children.

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The Crooked Path to Healing

Shakespeare wrote, "The course of true love never did run smooth." Healing from narcissistic abuse never runs smoothly either. Many of you asked, "How are you healing from narc abuse, Lenora?".

Sometimes, getting away is the best way to heal and put things in perspective. As I travel, stay with kind friends, gather evidence and interview witnesses, my journey of healing is coming into focus, sharp and full of clarity. This is the crooked Path of Healing I tread, complete with backtracks, quagmires...
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