Archives for April, 2016
Last week, I turned thirty-six. I've finally decided that I'm so done with the pain, denial, false guilt and sundry miseries resulting from decades of narcissistic abuse. I want to be happy. I want to be free.
When you've been surrounded by narcissists all your life, naturally you assume everyone thinks like them. Judges you like them. Hey! It's self-protection. But they don't, you know.
"Perfectionism is probably the most common and also one of the most damaging characteristics of dysfunctional families," wrote John and Linda Friel in their excellent book An Adult Child's Guide to What's Normal. When I read that, I felt like I'd discovered fire. Perfectionism...
Anyone struggling to recover from emotional abuse has probably been told, "Oh, just forgive, forget and get over it!" What a slap to the face! As I chronicle my own journey of healing from narcissistic abuse on Narcissism Meets Normalcy and the Huffington Post, pissed-off readers post comments like this frequently! I bet you've heard it a lot too. So let's chat about it, shall we?