Control

Speedy The Narcissist and the Green Pea Fiasco

Once upon a time, in a kingdom far far away, there lived a narcissist called Speedy. You've met Speedy before. He's the one who liked to fight things. He fought a speeding ticket (Police 1: Speedy 0) and fought with dogs (Speedy 1: Dog 1)

Many many years ago, Speedy decided to embark upon fatherhood. He and his wife had a little girl. A little girl with eyes the color of cornflowers and hair the color of...
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Abusive Mother

Toxic Mothers Don’t Deserve Your Time On Mother’s Day

Last year, I published this article on my Huffington Post blog fully expecting to be vilified, attacked and generally raked over the coals for daring to address the rarified, the sacred, the madonnaesque bastion of mothers and motherhood. But it didn't happen. No, the general consensus was a huge sigh of relief from all of those who dread Mother's Day because their mother is just too narcissistic, too abusive, too toxic for the de rigueur visit...
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Anger

Here’s What Happens When You Tell Narcissists They’re Narcissists

To paraphrase Charles Dickens, "You must first read my article Should Narcissists Be Told They're Narcissists or nothing wonderful can come of this tale I'm about to relate. In that article, I shared how I created a kind-of litmus test to confirm whether my family were narcissistic or not. By offering to tell them the "core dynamics" ( narcissism) that informed my decision to go No Contact with them, I was testing them.

Would they raise their hand and pay me...
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