Abusive Father

Interviewing Narcissists’ Acquaintances: An Unusual Path to Healing

It's extraordinarily lucky that my narcissists aren't the charming type. No, mine are the type that piss everybody off in their egotistical zeal to be "better than," to proselytize and then to live in haughty isolation from everyone else who is "going to Hell."

Last week, a tremendous leap in healing occurred when, trembling and doubting myself, I took the plunge and contacted my narcissist's former acquaintances dating back forty years.


Religious Abuse and the “Duggar Effect”

Today I'm going to tell you about something I call the Duggar Effect. It's about two groups of people caught in the same cult and how each group reacts. Anybody who has ever been in a cult or a cult-like denomination, church or family will surely relate.

This article just happens to be named after the Duggar family of the Quiverful "movement," mostly because we all know them from their show 19 Kids and Counting. But it could be about anyone in any cult.


An Open Letter to a Christian High School Principal

[Note  from the Author: In most of my articles, I fear I go too far and then find out I've pulled my punches. That is true of this article. There was much more that happened at this particular school, during and before my time there, that I'm only just hearing about now. Shocking stories that need to be told! The Principal I wrote this letter too is obviously not responsible for what occurred before his tenure.) My graduating class is a trainwreck, Mr. Principal, and you're responsible.

Well, that's a little harsh, a little unfair. But there's a lot of truth in it. You pretended to run a Christian School. It was nothing of the sort and you knew it! You took our parents' tuition money under false pretenses. Or maybe that's why our parents sent us there. Many of them were fake narcissistic so-called Christians too and your thick handbook of extreme rules appealed to their need to suppress, oppress, project-upon, guilt and shame their innocent children just like you did.

There's an old cliché: Water will find its own level. Considering the swamp mud you attracted to your school...!


The Three Jesuses of Narcissists

I've met a lot of "Jesuses" in my time. They were preached and modeled for me at home, at church and at religious school. Each Jesus was a little bit different from the other Jesuses.

But when I read the Gospels, I meet yet another Jesus. One who says, "My yoke is easy and my burden is light."

Ha! You gotta be joking me.

No one ever introduced me to Him.