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Codependence

Oh, the Subtle Disrespect of Narcissists

They were my houseguests for only one night. On my turf. Visitors in my "castle." Years after their brief and painful visit, I've realized just how disrespectful they were. But subtly, oh, so subtly disrespectful as only narcissists can be. If you're hosting narcissists in your home, let's just say that you're definitely not "entertaining angels unawares."


Control

Invalidation: Marco Pierre White claims “I didn’t make Gordon Ramsay cry. That was his choice to cry.”

Inspiration strikes in the oddest places. Memories are triggered when least expected, sometimes in the kitchen. There's an urban legend, and apparently it's true, that three Michelin star Chef Marco Pierre White made a young pre-Michelin star Gordon Ramsay cry! Quelle horreur. Known in the 1980s as the enfant terrible of the culinary world, Marco was renowned for yelling, screaming and swearing at his staff and, five minutes later, calling them "darling" as if nothing had happened. Marco's response to the Ramsay legend was fascinating. He said, and I quote exactly: "No, I didn't make Gordon Ramsay cry. He made himself cry. That was his choice to cry."


Abusive

Hope for the Weird Kid at School (Pt 2 of 2)

There's always one. That kid in school who has the wrong clothes, the wrong shoes, the wrong hairstyle. On the outside, they're not like the other kids. In many ways, I was that weird kid. Here's the second part of my imaginary diary, reflecting my feelings as a little tiny girl and informed by what I know now as a grown woman. To read Part 1, please click here. Just know this: it's not you. You're not organically "weird." In most cases, it's parents with lack of empathy who almost seem to go out of their way to make their child "weird." At the end of this article is a little something I learned by being the weird kid and wrote, from my heart, to encourage all the other "weird kids" out there. Dedicated to all the wonderful "Weird Kids" - old and young.


Abuse

Diary of the Weird Kid at School (Pt 1 of 2)

There's always one. That kid in school who has the wrong clothes, the wrong shoes, the wrong hairstyle. On the outside, they're not like the other kids. In many ways, I was that weird kid. My husband was too. This article is for every little girl who felt weird and out-of-it (me) and for every little boy who didn't receive enough haircuts and had to wear a hand-sewn orange velvet jumpsuit (my husband.) This is my imaginary diary, reflecting my feelings as a little tiny girl and teenager and informed by what I know now as a grown woman. Just know this: it's not you. You're not organically "weird." In most cases, it's parents with lack of empathy who almost seem to go out of their way to make their child "weird." Some may be clueless, some neglectful, somei n a cult or cult-like family, some knowingly abusive, some paranoid and worried. At the end of this article (Part 2) is a summary encapsulating everything I learned by surviving being "weird" written, from my heart, to encourage all the other "weird kids" out there. Dedicated to all the wonderful "Weird Kids" - old and young.


ACON

A Very Codependent Marriage Indeed

Usually the terse summary of an article comes at the very end, after I've blethered on for 1,000 words or so. Ah, but this article is going to be summed up at the beginning. So, how do you summarize a very codependent marriage? I steal it shamelessly from Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen: "You are each of you so complying, that nothing will ever be resolved on; so easy, that every servant will cheat you; and so generous, that you will always exceed your income." THE END


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