Of Kindness and Pound Cake: Hope for 2019

Kindness. Think about that word for a moment. Kindness. Does it bring a smile? A tear? A shiver? When was the last time you were treated with kindness? When was the last time you performed a random act of kindness? Maybe kindness, along with humor and creativity, has a kind of power that's an integral part of our healing from narcissistic abuse. Perhaps 2019 should be about the power of kindness.

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The Narcissist’s Poor Golden Child: What Price Glory? (Pt 2)

As I wrote in Part 1, being a Golden Child can be summed up perfectly by the lyrics of an old country song:
You can't buy my love with money
'Cause I ain't never was that kind
Silver threads and golden needles
Cannot mend this heart of mine

Earlier in Part 1 I mentioned that even Golden Children experience narcissistic abuse and compared their situation to be the "MVP" of a cult. Their damned to a lifetime of it because of the "niceness,"...


Pity the Narcissist’s Poor Golden Child? (Pt 1)

This may be the most hated article I will ever write for Narcissism Meets Normalcy. My challenge, if I choose to accept it, is to make you feel empathy for the narcissist's Golden Child. That's a tall order as, after reading your comments, I've learned that Scapegoated ACONs despise their Golden Child ACON siblings. Well, I've been toying with this topic for weeks and by George! I'm going for it! I think we need to take a second glance at Golden Children and see if, maybe just maybe, being the Golden Child is a special kind of nightmare and they actually deserve our empathy.


Edith Bunker’s Advice for Narcissists’ Wives

Dingbat, she was indeed, but she was our dingbat and we loved her for it! Edith Bunker — fluttery, silly, easily confused and bamboozled. Edith Bunker — loving, giving, faithful, patient, honest, long-suffering and servant-hearted. Edith Bunker — wife of narcissist, Archie Bunker on All in the Family. In this article we're setting ourselves the fascinating exercise of learning from Edith Bunker on how to successfully be the wife of a narcissistic man. How did Edith do it for so long without losing her temper or her sanity? What can we learn from Edith on how to be married to a narcissist and be happy.


Archie Bunker, Narcissist!

Oh, Archie. You're such a narcissist, Archie! It didn't strike me when I first started watching All in the Family years ago that what made it so entertaining was, of course, Archie Bunker's narcissism. But scratch any good drama and you'll usually find a narcissist at the bottom, creating the drama.


Daring to be Authentic after Narcissistic Abuse

There's a particular scene in the Julie & Julia movie that inspired this article and never fails to move me to tears. It's the scene where Julia Child (played by Meryl Streep on platform shoes) is tearfully telling her husband, Paul (Stanley Tucci), that her massive tome Mastering the Art of French Cooking has been rejected by publisher Houghton Mifflin.


Narcissistic Artists: Should They Get a Free Pass to Abuse Others?

Of course, we're all equal. But like George Orwell said in Animal Farm, "All animals are equal, but some animals are more equal than others." History has proven that if you're in the right crowd or have the right amount of money, you can pretty much do and say anything to anyone and get away with it. So it has always been; so it shall always be. It shouldn't be that way. It's not right nor just, but that's how the world works. Apparently. And never more so than if you are an artist. Ever since Caravaggio attempted to castrate Tomassoni with a sword, and oops! punctured his femoral artery instead, great artists, dancers, playwrights, singers, actors, actresses, etc. have insisted that they can't be expected to comply with the rules-for-correct-behavior for "normal people" like you and me because they're artists and geniuses.