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OCD and “Blocks” About Certain Tasks: “I can’t, I just can’t!”

Do you ever feel like you just can't? Like you have a mental block preventing you from diving into a particular task. It's more than procrastination. More than "don't wanna and you can't make me." We feel like Audrey Hepburn playing Eliza Dolittle in My Fair Lady when Professor Higgins has driven her unmercifully for hours and she cries out, "I cawn't. I just cawn't."

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Whenever I hit a block, there's something I always say: "Damn my OCD!"



Authenticity

Wise Words of Liberation to Guide Our Lives

"To know what you prefer
instead of humbly saying 'Amen'
to what the world tells you
you ought to prefer
is to have kept your soul alive."
— Robert Louis Stevenson
Twenty years ago, I was a twenty-year-old fresh out of technical college. I'd landed a job as the under-worked Administrative Assistant of a printing company and, between begging my boss for more work, I was bored, bored, bored. To wile away the time between incoming switchboard calls, I read psychology books and collected great words to wisdom, hoping they would guide me in mindfully building a happy adult life.



Forgive

Two Tales of Magnificent Forgiveness

It. Never. Fails. If I find out about something important and life-changing, the kind of thing about which one says, "Why have I never heard about this before!?!"...I will immediately hear about it two more times in quick succession. It. Never. Fails.

That's what happened recently about The Scarlet and the Black. I stumbled across it on the Roku quite by chance and then twice more online. It was weird! The third time it happened, I said to myself, "Well obviously, this is what I'm meant to write about this week." So here goes.



Cortisol

Turning 40 Gives the Gift of Perspective

Forty is a magical age. Dr. Spock doesn't list any milestones for this age but I can tell you it's surprisingly enjoyable and free-ing to crest that hill and begin your leisurely roll down the other side. By far the best part of turning forty, is the perspective it gives you. But you can't  rush it! You've got to wait for it. You have to live all forty years before perspective is in your purview.



Abuse

Forbade From Launching: The Long-term Effects of Being Denied Adulthood (Pt 1 and 2)

Parents of disabled children all express the same concern, hope, fond wish: "I hope, someday, my child can be independent with a home, a family and a life of their own."

On the flip side of the coin are parents who forbid their adult children from growing up and launching as adults in their own right to enjoy a home, a family and a life of their own. Deeply ashamed adult children who may be mis-classified as a "Failure to Launch"...a "Deadbeat"...a "Basement Dweller"...when they're actually forbidden from launching.

I know. I was there. And it hurt me more than three decades of cult abuse and narcissistic abuse...put together!