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Loving Beyond Projection: “The Enchanted Cottage”

The film The Enchanted Cottage (1945) shows love developing between two people based on their knowledge of one another, in direct opposition to the film Sleepless in Seattle (1993) which shows love between two people who have never even met.

The latter serves to perpetuate certain fantasies that we have about romance: that there is someone out there just perfect for me, that my life will be complete once I meet him or her...
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‘Love and Other Drugs’: Narcissistic Love

Several months before Love and Other Drugs had its theatrical release, I wrote a post about serial romantic relationship addiction on my After Psychotherapy site, inspired by the movie's title.  Now that it has come out on DVD, I've had a chance actually to see it.

Director Ed Zwick has given us a tale of two narcissistic people who take no trouble to hide their manipulative behavior from others but who are saved from...
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Love and Romance

Self-Abnegating Love in ‘The War of the Roses’

I decided to revisit this film from 1989 because of its acrimonious divorce:  I've been wanting to write about a particular process that sometimes occurs when a marriage falls apart, where the couple seems to be trapped in a struggle over who will emerge the "winner" and who the "loser" (I've written about this dynamic more generally elsewhere).

Although The War of the Roses portrayed this dynamic, I came away from my viewing...
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A Look at Women’s Arc of Transformation Through Three Films: Woody Allen’s “Alice”

PART III (of 3 parts)
Our third film, Woody Allen’s Alice, made in 1990, stars Mia Farrow. Unlike Darling or Madame Bovary, Alice becomes conscious and starts growing into her destiny with the help of her guide, Chinese herbalist Dr. Yang.

Many women’s journeys end up in the same place, whether single, married, divorced, widowed, with or without children: a journey to find the particular meaning of their own life.

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A Look at Women’s Arc of Individuation through Three Films: Madame Bovary

PART II (of 3 parts)
Our second film, Madame Bovary (), is based on Flaubert’s classic 1857 novel.

Jennifer Jones plays our heroine, Emma, whose overriding dream is to live out the myth of romantic love. Flaubert presents her in a compassionate light, believing her plight could be that of many women of that time, if they only had more courage to try to break free of their dissatisfaction.

Emma goes through...
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Bowing to Fate, Growing into Destiny: A Look at Women’s Arc of Individuation through Three Films

PART I (of a 3-part series)

Jungian analyst and author James Hollis says we can bow to our fate—acknowledge and accept what cannot be changed, our “givens” such as parents, background, conditioning, early wounding and so forth. Beyond that, we can grow into our destiny and become all that we can become.

Today, long after the advent of the liberation movement, women are still seeking their destinies, both personally and in the larger world....
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Blue Valentine: What is Love?

The movie Blue Valentine is like a Zen koan, a paradoxical riddle with no answer which encourages us to ponder things in new ways. Ostensibly this particular koan asks us to wonder about what goes wrong in love, but perhaps a more fundamental question is what is love in the first place?

Some of the themes Blue Valentine explores is how much of what...
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A Realistic Portrait of Married Life: ‘The Kids Are All Right’ (2010)

The primary love relationship in The Kids Are All Right (2010), though between two women, is one of the more realistic cinematic portraits of a successful if flawed "marriage" of long-standing.

Nic (Academy Award nominee Annette Benning) and Jules (Julianne Moore) own a home and have reared two kids together, each one bearing a child from the same sperm donor.  The partners bicker and snipe, show affection...
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