5 thoughts on “How to Establish Boundaries After Divorce

  • December 11, 2015 at 1:34 pm

    This article popped up just at the right time for me, living in the total chaos of an ongoing separation. After 11 years together, I really needed to read this to make the best of the situation we are in, and will be in when I move out – it feels like that is when the advices really needs to be remembered.

    I’ve sent the article to my e-mail to remember myself to read it once a while, just to make sure I don’t fall into old habits without noticing.

    • December 11, 2015 at 1:52 pm

      I’m so glad that this post found you at the right time. You are in the midst of one of the most difficult processes a person can endure. Remember to be kind to yourself and to lean on those who give you strength. You will experience many ups and downs in the short-term future but hold on to the faith that things will get better. Your life will be filled with joy and amazing new memories. Taking the time now to do the hard work of dealing with all of your emotions and changes will set you up for great things!

  • December 11, 2015 at 9:28 pm

    This great article came at the perfect time. Thank you so much. 🙂

  • June 2, 2016 at 1:22 am

    This is such a great article! It’s very well-written and articulates some great points for thought. I think that often times boundaries aren’t set and it can cause a lot of conflict for everyone involved, especially future partners/spouses. My ex & I have set some clear boundaries. We are cordial and friendly but not ‘friends’. We have a pretty good co-parenting relationship. The guy I’m dating now, who I love dearly, has not set up boundaries with his ex. It’s definitely hard for me, as the new person in his life, to be ok with his boundary-less relationship with her. He doesn’t understand why I’m not ok with it and it’s challenging my feelings concerning our relationship and causing me to step back and evaluate things, as I know this will be even more of an issue later if boundaries are set in the very near future. Thank you for your well-thought-out and thought-provoking article!

    • June 2, 2016 at 9:37 am

      Thank you Anna! It really is extremely difficult to be the one able to see where boundaries are lacking yet not being able to do anything about it. With many blended families it does indeed become more difficult before it gets better. These situations truly are not for the faint of heart. I think that you are doing the right thing with being cautious about moving forward and ensuring that your needs are being communicated. Couples counseling may be beneficial as well so that you both can get on the same page about what is needed to move forward in a healthy manner. It can also be helpful because many times someone needs to hear the information from another person. So while you may be conveying the need for boundaries, it may be helpful for your boyfriend to hear it from another source as well. Good luck! 🙂


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