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Dads, You Matter

Dads, You MatterBeing a father is much more than having a biological tie to a child.

The essence of fatherhood lies in the relationship you have, the sacrifices you make, and the lessons that you teach. It’s the support that is given to a child or children, regardless of whether or not there is a shared bloodline, physical similarities, or a common last name.

The role of a father — a dad, is often overlooked and overshadowed by the role of the mom. I think most people would agree that fathers don’t always have the same rights and liberties, especially in a divorce or custody case. While it’s true that many biological fathers choose to walk away, others are left fighting with all of their might to have shared custody, to be a part of their children’s day-to-day routines, and to support their kids in every way possible.

Those are the dads we honor this weekend. The dads who weep when their children weep. The dads who give all they have and then give some more. The dads who want nothing more than to protect their children from the pain and injustices of this world.

To all of you dads, especially those who may be doubting your role and your importance, know that you matter. You matter in your children’s lives more than you could ever imagine. Whether you have them in your home every night or every other weekend, whether you are a step-dad or an adoptive dad, you matter. Your bad jokes, your strong hugs, your protective rants, and your unrelenting questions about new friends matter. Your love matters and your time matters.

You were specially created to fulfill a role that no other person can fill. You alone will give your children traits, lessons and strengths that no one else can.

So this Father’s Day, embrace the love you get in return. If you do not have your children physically in your presence, know that your kids are thinking of you, and know that you can play an important role in their life regardless of the circumstances.

Thank you for all that you do for your kids. You are teaching lessons that will live on for generations.

Dads, You Matter

Amy Bellows, PhD

Amy Bellows holds a PhD in Psychology and has had the opportunity to work in various settings including leading adolescent group therapy sessions, working with victims of sexual assault, helping woman inmates adjust to post-prison life, conducting parenting education classes and assisting with drug and alcohol dependency treatment plans. The unique challenges and opportunities that come along with being a part of a step-family is a special interest of hers. Amy is currently working in the corporate environment with a interest in group dynamics and change management. You can find her on her website, or on Twitter @AmyBellowsPhD.

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Bellows, A. (2016). Dads, You Matter. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 13, 2020, from


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